All 2021 Brides!

Ups - pretty much everything, I’m actually enjoying planning.


Downs- because no one really know what to expect with Covid, it’s kind’ve annoying not know how/when things will happen

I've had one hell of a planning fiasco lol. Planning has been struggle. Downs: unresponsive bridesmaids, having to ask a bridesmaid to step down (and never hearing from her again), friends and family opting to not come due to Covid (understandable), having to be Covid cautious and making safer decisions, unresponsive vendors, weather, family telling you what you should and shouldn't do, cake lady telling us a month before the wedding she might have to cancel (she is able to now, but that was a rough one), bridesmaid dress too tight and can't exchange because it's discontinued (had to put in a corset back), groomsman getting covid, another groomsman is Marine Honor Guard and might miss wedding to do Ruth G. funeral, fiance's jacket was discontinued and only available to be custom ordered, family drama because I'm not inviting my mom, and having 30+ guests not respond to the RSVP, and doing last minute stuff lol.


But, I'm still positive that this will be a great day. Everything happens for a reason, but I will never plan something to this scale ever again lol ESPECIALLY during a pandemic.

There’s been a lot of ups & a few downs. The biggest down was concerning his groomsmen. He wasn’t ready to commit & I kept pushing for an answer. Came to the realization that was taking the fun out of everything. I apologized & told him I wouldn’t ask anymore. We compromised to a deadline in January & that’s when he’d tell me who’d they be. We will talk about everything else but that was off limits! That put the fun back in!
Trying to keep on budget has been difficult but I love the challenge of finding a good deal! Was able to score a 7 night 1 bedroom honeymoon villa with a butler @ Sandals in Jamaica for $3500 (for both of us)!

Ups: planning (I'm an organizational nut), buying centerpieces (still in process) and dress shopping


Downs: The uncertainty with Covid. I'm also glad I didn't follow timelines for booking vendors. Because some vendors we really liked were booked by April of this year for our date.

View Quoted Comment At least you're keeping your head up! The family and friend drama that comes from planning your wedding is unlike anything I've ever seen before. I never thought any drama was going to be bigger than that of which was in middle/high school, boy was I wrong! I'm hoping your wedding turns out amazing!!

View Quoted Comment I feel you! All of our vendors previous to the pandemic were like,"yeah, I'm totally free for your date!" I hadn't put down anything yet because we hadn't picked a venue and then by the time I went to, they were all booked for 2021. Granted, we weren't and still aren't paying for most of our wedding. My parents are and they had been going through some rough stuff before the pandemic money wise so I wasn't blaming anyone on venues or deposits on anything. We got the ball rolling and that's all that matters!

View Quoted Comment I actually was the one who couldn't commit because I was unsure of anh of the girls I had picked to begin with! My Maid of Honor has been my one constant and then I decided I'd put a spin on my wedding and put my brothers up in my bridal party!! So I have my best friend and my 3 brothers standing with me and I couldn't be happier.


That is such a good deal!! My family owns a house down in Puerto Rico with a car so we are most likely going to go there to save money, my fiance has never been out of PA!

View Quoted Comment I haven't even picked my centerpieces, I'm so indecisive because I'm so picky and want everything PERFECT! I did pick my dress!


I'm so glad I didn't follow the timeline as well. I completely understand having your vendors booked. It would have been a nightmare finding any closer to our date!

View Quoted Comment I hear you on that. We aren’t getting married till September and about three months ago my mom told me I should start looking at DJs. More than half of them that I called were already booked for our date, and two have other DJs who work for them and their entire company was fully booked for that weekend. Luckily our wedding is on a Sunday and I was able to book my first choice DJ, but I was super surprised at how many of them were unavailable!

10/14/21, was 10/16/20. We had all of our vendors picked and deposits down before Covid. Thankfully they are still available on our new date, I’m sure partially bc it’s a Thursday. Right now the major down is dealing with the uncertainty of what this next year will bring. I will not be postponing a second time so I’m just hoping this extra year will be a big change with the restrictions, especially the ones we’re dealing with in NY

Our wedding is 10/30/21 (postponed from 10/10/20).


UP: We made the decision to postpone back in June. As a result, everything was pretty much done. So that resulted in no wedding planning being needed for over a year.... and allowed more time to relax and enjoy the engagement period with FH.
DOWN: Covid in general, its horrible effects on the country, the unnecessary wide spread and lives lost.
UP: A huge up was that our venue and vendors were very accommodating and easily transferred their contracted services to our new date, with no hassle or additional fees.
DOWN: Since getting engaged on 1/11/19, I’ve sadly lost two good friends to cancer (both age 43) and they won’t be in attendance at the wedding. But I’m glad I was able to share the engagement excitement with them.
Unexpected UP: I love our new date! I never expected to say that because 10/10/20 was so “perfect” and fun. But having an anniversary on 10/30 each year is exciting because FH and I usually host 3-4 parties per year, but never around Halloween. So, with the date change, we decided to host themed costume parties for our anniversary celebrations (Followed by a getaway). Plus, the date actually goes very well with our destination wedding in Vegas and the 1920s/Speakeasy style venue that we‘re using.

My ups have been that I’m a planner and I had so much done very early so I didn’t have to stress or worry too much. So finding the venue, wedding dress shopping, and then we’ve done 2 food tastings so far and their food is so delicious that I get really excited, even though we have a year to go.


My downs have been obviously Covid related, I got furloughed from my job in March so we have to watch spending which has made it harder to purchase things we had planned for our wedding. We also don’t know what’ll happen next year and since my wedding is in November, we kind of need the indoor portion of our venue. So I’m just worried that something won’t go right by then.

View Quoted Comment Good for you for getting the ball rolling! I definitely enjoy wedding planning

Our wedding is June 24th 2021. So far planning has been running smoothly. I thought it would be harder due to COVID but thankfully quite the opposite. Only downside is we decided to postpone our honeymoon til our first year anniversary because of any travel restrictions. I hope your planning goes well—congratulations!!

Ups: like some others I LOVE planning. So planning all the different things is really fun to me!! Also looking at wedding dresses was super exciting!


Downs: Issues with the wedding photographer already and our wedding isn’t until 9/2021!!! Also just the little logistics of the whole day is stressful to think about and organize. I wish I was able to afford a wedding planner.

Family drama on his side of the family has been absolutely nutty. I can’t wrap my head around their ignorance to be honest. We had executive orders of 25 person outdoor limit and they took it upon themselves to invite a couple people who we didn’t even know. Mind blown 🤯
Best wishes!