Alcohol Rsvp's

I have never heard of that before and I think it's a bit weird/rude.

This is a very odd request. I feel like if you want the discount for sober guests, then don’t have alcohol at all. I feel people that don’t drink often will have a drink or 2 at a wedding.

I think that's weird personally.
What happens if somebody says they wont drink but then wants to the day of?
I wouldn't worry about it honestly, it just adds a whole new layer of confusion and tracking.

We didn't ask people for it, but we know of some of our guests that are sober (in recovery or pregnant) so we gave that information to the caterer.

I’ve never heard of a caterer asking this. Honestly I would just round the children, in-recovery people, and pregnant guests and give that number.

Count out the underage and pregnant guests and give them that

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I totally agree with this, as I am one of those people. I don't drink that often, but I'm not against it. I absolutely will have a drink at a wedding, even though I hardly drink other times.

Our bar asked for a drinking adult headcount (which I thought was weird). We knew basically all our guests drank besides 4 (and anyone under 21) so we gave them that count. I can't imagine people can predict if they will drink on the exact night of your wedding.

I’ve never heard of this and would be a little put off if I received an invitation asking me if I was sober. I’m also not sure of the logistics. What if someone says they aren’t drinking and goes to the bar to get a glass of wine? Are you going to have a list of drinkers and non-drinkers?

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I agree, I don't think there is any way to word that on the invitation.

I did not do this, if guests were underage, pregnant, on medication that prevents alcohol consumption, or if I know they are opposed to alcohol and never drink, I deducted them from the headcount!

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Never heard of this and I agree it is kinda odd!!! I agree with PP's: take out underage folks, pregnant people and anyone you know who is in recovery or people who just don't drink.

I agree with most people. I wouldn’t ask. If someone is under 21, pregnant or in recovery/sober count them out and go with the rest as your number.

I would just estimate for your caterer. They wouldn't need a specified list - just tell them 15 out of a 100 wouldn't drink (or whatever you're estimating that number would be - imagine you know your guests well enough to estimate.

I think it's weird to ask people though.

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I agree.

Sue: Will you come to my wedding

John: Yes

Sue: Do you plan on drinking in Alcohol

John: I don't know, I'm a light drinker I probably won't drink too much maybe nothing at all. Why?

Sue: My caterer needs a head count

John: oh(confused)Well probably not then

Sue: Then gives head count to caterer

Fast forward 6 months later to the wedding

John says to Mary: We have been dancing up something lets go get a beer

John to bartender: I'll have a beer

Bartender: You are not on the approved list of guests that can have a drink

??????? How does this work

My vendor charged per person, so it would save money to know the headcount