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Dedicated September 2017

Alcohol before ceremony?

Savannah, on June 25, 2017 at 8:34 PM

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I am thinking of doing this, then I second guess myself and I change my mind for a few days. Then I go back to wanting to do it again... so what do you think about it? I wouldn't have the wheelbarrow, I would have rectangle tin tubs for the ice and beer. My ceremony area will be right past the...

I am thinking of doing this, then I second guess myself and I change my mind for a few days. Then I go back to wanting to do it again... so what do you think about it? I wouldn't have the wheelbarrow, I would have rectangle tin tubs for the ice and beer. My ceremony area will be right past the reception area so I could set this up to be on the way if I go that route.


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  • VC
    Master May 2017
    VC ·
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    I personally do not care to drink alcohol before the ceremony but that's your call. I'd be more concerned of the bottles, cans etc if it is a help-yourself kind of thing. You need people to take away these bottles so they don't enter the ceremony space. You don't want to see bottles in your photographs.

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  • Vanessasaurus
    VIP June 2019
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    We went to a wedding with a "hospitality hour" bc the couple put the ceremony time 30 mins before the actual start time ( I feel like they had very little faith in their guests coming on time ). Having a drink in my hand was the only reason I wasn't annoyed with waiting so long.

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  • I'mthemom
    November 2018
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    I would be careful with alcohol before. The wedding I worked on Friday had a guest passed out during meal service. I am fairly certain the guest had things to drink before coming to our venue. I only served a glass of wine to them during cocktail hour. This doesn't happen often at all......you would also take in any underage kids getting drinks. I do like the wheel barrows. Could you do this for cocktail hour?

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  • S
    Dedicated September 2017
    Savannah ·
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    I have stated in prior comments and in my post that I would not be using wheelbarrows and that if I decided to so this, I would have the tubs with alcohol out of reach from the kids. I may just stick to water. Thank you everyone for your great points you have made. I may just do water and be done with it.

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  • andrea
    Super September 2017
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    All I could think of is guests taking cans/beers to the ceremony and hearing them pop open during the vows

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  • pammat
    VIP October 2017
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    Thank you for posting this; our venue won't open the bar before the ceremony (which will top out at about 10 minutes). I now added "ask about whether SOMETHING to drink can be available pre-ceremony for guests" to my ever-growing questions for their coordinator.

    (I think it's an awesome idea -- as a guest I'd love it! PPs points about under-agers helping themselves are valid though.)

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  • J
    Savvy September 2016
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    Don't do it. Guess will already be drinking for 5+ hours after the ceremony. If you really want to serve something, do a mock tail

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  • Kirstie819
    Super August 2017
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    Our outside bar will be open before the ceremony.

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  • M
    Master June 2017
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    I believe our bar opened up about 30 minutes before the ceremony so people could grab something if they wanted.

    I don't recommend leaving a bunch of alcohol unattended. Not because your guests will get "crazy", but because you could be held liable for anyone caught drinking underage.

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  • Jillian
    Master June 2019
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    I'm having champagne escort cards. Guests can drink it during the ceremony or take it to claim their seat at their table. They will be passed out by catering staff.

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  • loreen
    Devoted October 2017
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    Im having infused flavored water and lemonade and an appetizer available for guests before the ceremony if they want- I

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  • emsker
    Expert September 2017
    emsker ·
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    If you do that, I would have a bartender serve unless you're only inviting guests who are 21 and over.

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  • FutureMrsR
    VIP May 2018
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    They aren't talking about 5 year olds getting alcohol. They're talking about 18-20 year olds. Who are more than tall enough to reach the tubs and underage and a liability for you.

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  • S
    Dedicated September 2017
    Savannah ·
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    Thank you for these great options, however having a bartender is not in my budget. My venue does not require it, and I simply have decided to spend my money elsewhere. My guests will be properly hosted, the reception will be very laid back. I will not have any kind of greeter/bartender. And there is not anything that can be shifted to make this decision any different. Yes there will be guests under the age of 21. I may just skip this idea all together. But there will still be alcohol provided even if it's not before the ceremony.

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  • S
    Dedicated September 2017
    Savannah ·
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    @futuremrsr thanks for clarifying. I thought of that after. I will discuss this further with some of my wedding party and get some further opinions on this. I've been to plenty of weddings that didn't have a bartender and they were tons of fun and the kids knew that the alcohol was not allowed for them. That doesn't necessarily mean it would go that way at mine, I understand that.

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  • J
    Super October 2017
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    We are having a drink stand at the entrance to the beach where our ceremony is. It will be attended by the venue. Water and a signature drink - TBD.

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