This is my first post. My fiance and I recently got engaged. We've been together for nearly 11 years (we were high school sweethearts). We're planning on having our wedding in the fall of 2026 but I'm trying to figure out how exactly to go about the alcohol at the reception. Our families are from Wisconsin and drinking is considered a big thing there. In fact, most weddings I've been to have been open bar. My fiance drinks on occasion but it's very rare that I partake in drinking. I have CPTSD stemming from long term childhood trauma and alcohol makes me incredibly uncomfortable. I hate how loud everything is, I hate how people don't act like themself, I just hate being around excessive drinking. It's a big trigger for me and I've been working on it in therapy. I don't think I'll ever truly be comfortable around alcohol and would like to keep it to a minimum at our wedding. If I could have it my way I'd have a dry wedding but my fiance doesn't want that. So far I'm leaning towards drink vouchers or something? It seems pretty juvenile but I can't think of another way to ensure people don't get too wasted and in turn trigger me. I know I kind of sound like a spoiled girl but I know I won't be able to enjoy our day if I'm constantly crying and hyperventilating. Any suggestions on how to make this work would be fantastic. I don't want to be seen as a party pooper or super strict. Also if anyone with PTSD or CPTSD has any suggestions on how to make the event as relaxing and sensory friendly as possible, I would deeply appreciate it. Thank you for reading my rant
