Hey guys! I’m getting married in a week and my venue will have an open bar (beer and wine). We are not allowed to bring outside alcohol but I am worried that some guests may try to sneak it in. Im also worried about underage people getting drinks. Both of these scenarios can cause a fine or our reception to be cut short at the venue owners discretion. I’m wanting to have a sign towards the entrance or somewhere to remind people no outside alcohol is allowed and to make sure you have your ID. how can I do this tactfully?
The only time I've ever heard of people sneaking alcohol into a wedding is when it was a dry wedding. I really don't think this is going to happen... unless that's common in your social circle? I would never fathom to sneak alcohol into a wedding- so odd. If it's a concern of yours then just make it super clear on your invites/website (etc) that it's open bar! I would think it is your bartenders' jobs to ensure they do not serve underagers.
I agree with PP, people don’t usually sneak alcohol into an open bar. I would maybe mention it on your website. As far as underaged drinking, your bartender should be checking IDs. There’s no sense in putting a sign at the door. If they didn’t bring it, it’s a little late to turn around and go get it once they arrive.
I do think people are likely to bring flasks or nips if they know it’s just beer and wine. Is that something you’re telling people in advance or will they find out when they get there? I don’t really think a sign will make a difference either way.
My cousin who was 20 at the time brought a bottle of vodka to my other cousins wedding a few years ago >.< luckily she kept it in her car and went out to drink, so the venue owners didn’t know but it was super rude.
Hopefully that doesn't happen at your wedding, OR mine because I’m worried about it too. Short of frisking your guests though, I’m not sure what you can do. Maybe be like “we’ve provided drinks, please save yours for later” or something like that? And people should know ID laws, but you could put it on your website or invitations to remind people to bring theirs. If people don’t want to bring their ID, resort to wrist bands because they apparently can’t be adults about it.
You know your guests better than we do, but I'm in the "can't really imagine people would bring alcohol to a wedding with an open bar" camp. Putting something like "dinner, drinks, and dancing to follow" on the invite isn't a bad idea, and you could put something in an FAQs section of your website saying that it's an open beer and wine bar, and something like the person above me said - "we're providing drinks so you don't need to bring any".
I think you can put something on your website (or whatever other method of communication you're using with your guests) saying "We'll have plenty of drinks to go around, but please make sure you bring your ID to be served." That emphasizes that there will be alcohol without specifically saying there will be no liquor, which should deter people from bringing their own, as well as reminding people to bring IDs. And then you just have to make sure no one is going to the bar to get drinks for underage people, which could be an individual conversation if it became an issue that you noticed.