Alcohol at Bridal Shower?

I would not think down on a shower that didn't come with free alcohol. Also, YOU need to let it go because you are not the one planning the shower. You could also end up hurting sister and mom's feelings in the process if you do what you thought of.

I'd let it go.

My shower was at a restaurant and we just had champagne. It was a girls luncheon so we kept it casual

Yea I think it's ok to let it go. I've been to quite a few bridal showers actually where there was no alcohol available! If someone is desperate enough for an alcoholic drink then they'll be fine purchasing their own! Plus it's you're party, I'm sure everyone will be fine and enjoy the moment <3

I wouldn't expect it at a shower either, I think you are good

The showers I've attended at restaurants and banquet halls have all had alcohol included. I would be very taken aback to find I had to pay for a glass of wine.

I think that you should either have no alcohol or a hosted bar. If I were at a shower at a restaurant and alcoholic drinks were offered I would assume they were being hosted. Eta: I realize the final decision isnt really your since others are hosted. But you can gently note your concerns about guests getting confused.

My mom and MOH have asked me what I would want at my bridal shower, and I told them it was up to them, but I'd prefer some type of alcohol served even if it's just a mimosa bar or wine. I've been to bridal showers where only water and iced tea was offered, I would have bought a drink but there wasn't even a bar there! Maybe ask your mom if she knows about a cork fee? Then they could bring in alcohol. Make sure you just ask curiously and nicely and don't demand anything. They are generous enough to throw you a shower.

I have never been to a shower at a restaurant where alcohol was not included. Only one baby shower where there was no alcohol and everyone is still (two years later) talking about how much that sucked.

Um yes please! Even if it's only wine.

I agree with BeachDreams. I think it would be confusing to have food hosted but not alcohol. I'd say either have it fully hosted, or not have it at all. I personally have never been to a bridal shower without alcohol, but I've also never been to one where the alcohol would have been sorely missed.

ETA: By "it", I mean the alcohol, not the entire shower. I just realized that might have been confusing!

Thanks ladies! I just felt like I would've been taken aback if I showed up to a hosted party and found out I had to open my wallet for something there. (Which is why we are of course having an open bar at the wedding.) Seeing if they have a cork fee is a great idea or maybe they can just do a few bottles from the restaurant so there is something as an option.

I have been to showers that didn't have alcohol but they were in a house setting. Could you see if your mom could possibly by maybe a round of drinks for everyone? Are there a lot of people coming? I personally wouldn't buy the drinks because you aren't the one hosting it. Normally restaurants would have rooms where you can meet at and they would do specific things for that group.

I wouldn't expect it at a shower, especially if the shower is hosted at a restaurant but if there is wine, champagne the most is what I will expect.

I would not quietly do that as I think it could be perceived negatively by the hosts. They're hosting so I say let them do that and not get involved

Host something simple. Wine and champagne are fine.

My mom is having a mimosa bar as a batch option and quietly on the side will have a tab open for people who don't want mimosas and my mom will just settle up at the end in terms of the bill. However she's not broadcasting that there's additional options, kind of on the DL

Sucks that they don't offer pitcher style

My sisters printed on the menu first round of mimosas on us

Cash bar available

Only 1/2 the guest drank