Alcohol and liquor!

So at your wedding, you're going to publicly shame people who get wild elsewhere, even if they are perfectly behaved at your wedding itself? I don't see that going over well at all.

You could decide not to invite these people. You could talk to them ahead of time and say they will be invited only if they keep their drinking to moderate levels. Or you could just hire a professional bartender, who will cut people off if they've had too much. But you really can't use wristbands to distinguish between those you trust and those you don't.

I really wouldn’t do that. You could do a beer and wine only bar.

I would not have wristbands. I agree with the person above me on how it is almost publically shaming them. Maybe have a few groomsmen or bridesmaids watch out for people in general and if they get out of hand then maybe they can go talk to them. Or just don't invite them?!

View Quoted Comment I didn’t even think of it as shaming people. That’s a good point. I would just hate my day to be ruined by people who are just trying to have a good time and then get act up. I don’t want to not invite them because they are my family. They did give me their word to behave but I’m just scared of the water that’s around the venue and something happening maybe it’s just over thinking.

I wouldn't do wristbands at all.. Everyone is an adult and should be able to handle their liquor at a wedding. If you are worried about someone causing a scene, consider designating someone to keep things in check or even security if it's that big of an issue. Another thing to consider is talking with your bartenders, they should have a policy in place already about over serving and cutting people off when appropriate.

If you did wristbands, I would be worried it'd cause an even bigger scene of those people asking why they didn't get one thinking it was a mistake or something.

This is not a carnival. No wristbands please. 1) Don’t invite problem guests and 2) Offer just beer & wine (totally acceptable). 👍

Thanks everyone we have decided not to do the wristbands

Oh my, I definitely would not do wristbands. I foresee a lot of people becoming very angry and making a scene, which is the exact thing you were trying to avoid by using the wristbands. I would suggest having Security at your venue and letting all your guests know that there will be security at the venue who will escort anyone out who becomes too intoxicated. It removes the blame from you and hopefully just the presence of security will deter them from getting too wild.

I agree with others above. Either don’t invite them or just do beer and wine.

Yea giving wristbands to guests who are legally old enough to drink but just bad at being responsible about it is not going to go over well at all. If you have to invite these people, the suggestion for security is a great idea.

That would be wrong. I get the issue, I honestly do. It was a HUGE concern for me on our wedding day. It's not right to pick and choose what's right for another person. The person I worried about the most was on excellent behavior that day. He's a raging drunk but respected me and the day and didn't drink. I can't say everyone will do that most at my wedding did at least

It's the bartenders job to cut people off. I would just have a conversation with the bartender and tell them they have your full authority to cut off anyone who does not behave.

I would just give your venue names or pictures of the people you're worried about so they can show the bar staff ahead of the wedding! That way if one of the people from the pictures is looking worse for the ware they can discreetly cut them off! Good luck!