aita for getting married in Ireland?

Nope!! This wedding is about you and your future husband! You knew not everyone would be able to/want to travel that far so from there on its just you getting to enjoy your planning while they can be upset and then later wish they went to see the Book of Kells.

I think it depends on which people are saying they can't attend. If it's someone really important to you then I think I would have checked with them in advance of making the plans before you had made them. Unfortunately when you choose to have a destination wedding especially one out of the country you run this risk.

You can of course get married wherever you like. But your loved ones are allowed to be disappointed at the expense/travel difficulties you have required for attendance. I would tell them you will miss them and then change the subject. Just as they are allowed to be upset, you don't have to listen to them complain more than once.

A wedding should be about the couple! If you are both excited and had told VIPs your plans before booking then that is absolutely fine. Like others said, any destination wedding (even if it was in the states!) comes with knowing there will be people who cant or wont come. Your job is to plan the wedding, then it is up to each guest if they will come or not. You can't worry about that part of it. If they want to be there, they will and if not then they wont. Simple as that

Well the thing with a destination wedding is that not everyone will be able to attend. That's sort of the risk you take with deciding to get married at a DW especially out of the country.

If this is what you want, and you're good with guests not making it then by all means continue with your plans.

I would caution that the sentiment that "if they want to go they'll move heaven and earth to be there" is not exactly realistic. Many folks would be unable to get travel insurance coverage, time off, health clearance or even immigration/passport clearance to travel for these events. If they can't make it don't hold it against them.

Enjoy your wedding day! Prioritize you and future hubby’s joy. It sounds like the destination wedding of your dreams… hold on to that joy & don’t let other people’s complaints take away from that. There will always be someone complaining about some aspect of your wedding lol. A good friend told me that wedding planning and married life involve so much compromise that it’s really important to hold fast to certain things that really bring you joy- you can’t compromise on every single thing or the day won’t really be yours.


You two could have a later celebration in the states for anyone who couldn’t join- like a second reception/party for his family that can’t attend. You could also try to livestream the ceremony for those who can’t join. Enjoy it!!!