Ahhhhhh. #ihatecovid

I am in California and I am going through with my wedding in 9 days. We did cut back our guest list from 130 to 50.

We are going ahead with our 9/12/20 wedding. Masks required, seating by households with tables 6 feet apart, guest list cut to 50% venue capacity, no dancing or mingling, we’ll be cutting a small cake for just FH and I while the catering staff serves from a larger cake.
There’s no right or wrong answer here. You have to do what’s best for the two of you. Good luck!

My fiance and I postponed our July 2020 wedding to July 2022.


However, postponing isn't necessarily the best option for everyone. Are you OK with the restrictions in place? If so, move forward with your wedding plans! Otherwise, will your venue and all vendors allow you to postpone with no penalty? Does your venue have a date that you must decide by on whether to postpone? If you're not restricted on time, I would maybe wait it out until end of September or early October to see where things are. I would also avoid putting the date on anything until you decide one way or another. You could also do a small ceremony this year, and postpone the larger reception to next year.

My date was 11/14/20 and we postponed. It's hard to say and you must choose what's right for you. For us- this was no longer the event we spent roughly 10 - 13k on and it wasn't worth it to us. It felt like money wasted and ruined the entire point. We could get married for the cost of the license if we just wanted to get married, the expense was for a great reception to celebrate with loved ones. Scaling back, masks, no dancing, not being able to kiss and hug family, and being stressed the entire time? It wasn't at all what I wanted.


I know a lot of people are getting married at the courthouse rn and doing the reception later for this reason but for us this wasn't something we felt like doing- nothing will change for us if we get married so we aren't in a hurry to make it "official".

In the end you have to decide what you want to do. ❤ good luck!

I think this decision is very specific to each couple. I would sit down with your fiancé and go through the scenario (ie, what your wedding is going to look/feel like with all the restrictions in place), and decide if you both are OK with that. If you don’t mind the restrictions, then I say go ahead with your plans! If you will not enjoy your day because of the restrictions, or you feel like down the road you will regret compromising on having your wedding the way you had wanted it, then postponing may be the best option for you. My fiancé sat down and try to imagine together what our wedding would look like with the restrictions, and we were just not happy with that experience. We decided we would rather wait another year to have the wedding we really wanted. We both felt like we would regret it if we didn’t.

I delivered and setup a cake in St Charles county last weekend. They were originally getting married in St Louis County but at the beginning of the pandemic they knew to move it. It was a very large wedding and everything turned out beautiful. My suggestion is if you want your wedding to still happen, change venues to another county if possible.

View Quoted Comment This is exactly how I feel!


Thank you❤️

View Quoted Comment We love our venue - and that is why the decision is tough. We want it to be what we envision - and with the changes/restrictions it’s loosing that ability. I am glad your client had a wonderful wedding!

It really depends on if you all are willing to cut back on things you had planned for. Our wedding was supposed to be December of this year. My family is very large and close-knit, so it would have been unfair and nearly impossible to pick a smaller number to invite. I also want to have a dance floor and that’s something I just couldn’t let go of, so we decided to postpone in the hopes that next year there will be less restrictions. Again, it all depends on each couple though.

View Quoted Comment You're very welcome ❤

I"m st louis, too!!!!!! We postponed our september wedding to february and we aren't postponing again. What venue are you at? We are using Ballwin Golf Club, and we have basically no plan yet other than distancing people out.

View Quoted Comment So sorry you had to postpone, but come February I am hopeful you will have the wedding of your dreams!!! We are at The Coronado, downtow

I’m not getting married til spring 2022 however I would suggest postponing maybe take a romantic trip on your wedding day

I would suggest surveying your guests and seeing how many think they would come. That’s what we did. We found out a lot of our close friends didn’t feel comfortable being at a wedding this year. That made the decision to postpone our reception to next year a little easier.

We postponed to 12/12/20 but getting married in NC. We are still over 3 months out and it seems like each week things get better with Covid. I am going to reach out to our wedding coordinator the end of September/early October and see how things are going as far as restrictions at that point. Think about it this way, 3 months ago NO one was having weddings in public spaces. The fact that as of this moment you can have a public space wedding at all is a huge improvement. Hang in there for a little while longer and then see what things look like, for all we know we might have a vaccine and all this will be pretty much over.

We are in Virginia, and we postponed our April wedding to September 5 of this year. Honestly postponing took a huge toll on me and my sanity. The back-and-forth with options and changing guidelines drove me nuts. We are now getting married with 50 people in attendance, with a lot of changes to encourage social distancing. But having said that, if I could go back I wouldn’t have postponed. I would have had a 10 person ceremony and reception just as I had planned for my full on wedding. All my vendors, etc.


I wouldn’t postpone if I were you. there is no end in sight for this pandemic and I would hate for you to postpone because just like us, postponing still didn’t give me the wedding I had originally envisioned. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy with what we have planned, but I thought five months would’ve been more than enough time for things to calm down. And boy was I wrong. There are lots of ways to have a safe wedding. Best of luck with whatever you decide!

View Quoted Comment So sorry you are going through this — your situation is just how I feel. I am trying to avoid let downs for myself across the board and I need to let that go! Either way; things are and will be different and I just need to let that be. We are trying to wait until the vet last minute to make our decision — I am so hopeful that once we do decide, there will be a weight off my shoulders. The uncertainty is terrible!