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Hugs!!! It's completely valid to be upset about changing your wedding plans! You can be upset about postponing and distraught and concerned about the public health crisis as well - those aren't mutually exclusive feelings!!

Also it's healthy to let yourself feel these current feelings. You need to fully acknowledge them and grieve a little so you can then work through them and feel solidly more positive about plans. Take a planning break if you need one, pamper yourself, plan some special dates at home, and keep venting here where we totally understand your feelings - whatever you need right now!

I like this idea. I know I wouldn't want to wait any longer to get married, so I'd be upset. My sister and her husband moved across country and actually got courthouse-married while over there, then planned their dream wedding a year later. They got to go ahead and be married, but also have the exact wedding they wanted.

Now you can celebrate two different days back to back instead of combining your birthday and anniversary every year. It's a win!

Your FMIL's response shows a lack of sensitivity though. It's probably not ill intentioned, some people are just bad at that stuff. Stressing about my wedding my MOH was juts like "I get it" and I'm like, "no you don't at all, you've never had a stable relationship in your life and you are not planning a wedding." She was trying to be empathetic but it came off as tone-deaf.