Age Restriction on Kid-free

If you don't want children at your wedding then I think that's fine. But I wouldn't put an age restrictions on it. I would just say no children across the board. Otherwise I think it's going to cause more drama because you could be separating families. For example, if a family has an eleven year old and a seven year old then you'd allow one but not the other which could really hurt the younger child's feelings and make them feel unwanted. Plus some ten year olds can be just as wild as younger children.

It generally is the adults who would appreciate the ceremony and reception. You certainly can avoid having children there. This can be useful for more of a mature reception and for avoiding undisciplined children from being a distraction. Also, planning the numbers for a wedding can be difficult cost wise just to accommodate the adults we want to have.

I think the age limit may be problematic. What if you have a family with an 8 and 10 year old? Or what if one family has a 9 year old but sees a 10 year old attending?

I would either go with inviting adults only, or include kids.

At any case, the information should go on the website, but not on the invitation itself. Etiquette-wise, you never refer to who is not invited on the invitation. Address the envelopes just to the adults and say that "2 seats have been reserved".

No it's not werid at all some may not mind with the small children but we are doing the same thing. So we are only having kids 10 and older we have no exceptions and bc of those reasons the yelling and screaming or breakage. Now please so it's no miss understanding we love kids of all age we just a adult wedding so ppl can enjoy themselves.

It’s your special day and whatever decision you make or are comfortable with is what matters. I said no children at my wedding and that meant under 21 lol. We stuck to out guns till a week before the wedding my daughter asked me to please consider letting her two year old daughter come (my granddaughter) and she would find someone to watch her 6 month old. We made a deal which was the first second she starts fighting or talking during the ceremony my daughters husband had to take her out. I agreed because she is a very beautiful well behaved child but my ceremony was being audio tapped by our DJ and I absolutely wanted no crying kids. The reception wasn’t an issue for me because it’s loud and fun. My granddaughter came and my daughter honored my wishes. She had to be removed within minutes because it’s hard for a 3 year old to sit still. I’d access how close you are to the children in question and decide what’s in your gut. Truth be told no kids would have been at my wedding had my daughter didn’t plea with me a week before. Prior we had already told all friends and family no kids and wrote the invitations as such. But I have 3 children and one daughter and my granddaughter really is a well behaved kid. But a promise is a promise and my daughter honored it and all was beautiful. Out ceremony was outdoors and I planned every detail to include all contemporary Christian procession and recessional songs, Bible versus and we wrote our own vows. My best advice is nothing is tacky if it makes you happy! It’s your day!❤️

I meant fidgeting not fighting. Spell check!

Ok I see my typo and I also said 3 when I meant 2 year old. I think saying no kids is easiest. My two boys don’t have children yet so I knew my decision was a safe one. Lol. Best of luck. Let us know what u decide.

We didn’t want little kids either for the same reason, but we didn’t put out an “adults only” or “no children under 10” message. We simply invited only the adults in the family and spelled out exactly who was invited on the envelope. We did have some politely ask about their children but we kept it simple and just said “Sorry only those listed on the envelope can be accommodated”. Once told, we didn’t really see many issues. The parents just said “ok” and no drama happened on the day-of either. I think it also helped that not many of our guests had young kids, so maybe that’s why things were mostly fine for us.


Both my cousins spelled out “adults only” on the actual invitations and both experienced arguments with angry family members. Granted, they did have extended family and in-laws with more young children than my case, but they stood their ground when confronted beforehand and no one brought kids or raised drama about it to their faces on their wedding days.

The issue with age limits, like others have mentioned, is when you have families with kids who fall on either side of the line. If you know you don't have anyone that would be in that situation, then you're probably fine. That being said, it's probably easier to have an all-or-none approach. One of our venues actually has a rule about no kids under a certain age, and that would cause a split for one of the families on our guest list if that was where we drew the line. I also have no doubt that some of our guests would absolutely throw a fit if we said their young kids couldn't come but we allowed other guests to bring their kids who were just a year or two older. Our solution was just a blanket "no kids" policy, addressing envelopes by names of those invited (as opposed to "The Smith Family"), and stating "X number of seats have been reserved in your honor" on the response cards. I'm sure there's been some opinions on that choice too, but as a whole it's probably the choice resulting in the least amount of drama.

We didn’t put age restrictions, but we said no kids on invites. We worded it that we love children, but we want this night to be a break for the parents to enjoy the party. It was an overseas wedding, and the guests that bought kids left them at the hotel with babysitters that the hotel set up. It worked out perfectly!