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Just Said Yes September 2023

After Party Invitees

Sept Bride, on February 23, 2023 at 10:51 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
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Hi! In need of advice.
Me and my fiancé are having an after party after our wedding reception. Originally, we wanted the after party to be more intimate and only invite close friends and family. (Meaning, not everyone invited to the wedding). However, we have rooms that are blocked for our guests at our venue where the after party is taking place. Is it rude to only invite close friends and family to the after party while other guests who attended the wedding might be in the area and stayed the night? I’m so torn. Because there are a lot of people invited to our wedding that we are not really close with, and I would prefer to only be around people that I’m comfortable with for the after party since we didn’t do an intimate wedding, but I feel that I will be offending people if they see or find out that the party is still going and they were not invited to it. Help please! I don’t intend to be mean to anyone, it was just a comfort preference. Thank you so much!

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Latest activity by CM, on February 25, 2023 at 7:16 PM
  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    I don't know if some more details might help but you might add these into the comments here. What time is the reception and how long is it? Do you have vendors helping at this time or just people possibly supplying drinks and snacks? Is this just in the hotel rooms or in an additional rented area?

    I think it could work fine if the reception is normal length, but it is hard to say who is ready to party so long after the reception. Most people would probably be happy just with the reception. You could be casual about who joins in on the party, or just have a polite send-away to them.

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    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I think it would be rude not to invite everyone to the after party especially since the after party is being held at the same location guests are staying.
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated July 2023
    Brittany ·
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    I think if people were privy to an after party they were not invited to, it might hurt feelings. So unless you can completely prevent anyone from finding out something else is going on (doesn't sound like it), I'd kind of let it be open invite, if it were me.

    Your closest will obviously go, the people you're not as close to may not come because they are not close to you, or they may because they're having a good time at your wedding. Some people may not go because they're tired, etc. Honestly, the day of I'm not sure you'd care about who ends up at the after party, you'll be too busy having fun.

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  • M
    VIP August 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I mean your wedding guest list should have been only your nearest and dearest, but if not, you will already be partying with all guests for most of the day anyway. You'll be on a bliss high all day and anyone who does an after-party is already fun so go with it. You can make your after-party informal with drinks and late night snacks in the room. Usually makes great memories. Even if you go formal, it is rude to exclude. This is the type of thing ppl will remember forever. PS. you're intimates don't have to stay up with you so don't put that pressure on them.
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    CM ·
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    I know after parties are popular, but I do think it’s inconsiderate to have in the hotel where other guests might walk by and see you. Then it becomes too much like a tiered event with A and B party guests.
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