After party etiquette?

An after party doesn't have to be hosted. Just make it a "hey we're going to this bar if anyone wants to come with!" Sort of thing.

Thanks ladies! I was so unsure about this one. I asked FH what the etiquette was and he looked at me like he didn't even know what etiquette meant. Oy.

We went to a wedding that had an after party at a local bar and they had preordered a bunch of apps which was a nice touch but we went into it expecting to pay our own way and didn't mind at all! I'd say cover some snacks if it's within your budget but if you're just grabbing drinks, let everyone know you're going to X bar after the wedding and anyone is welcome to join (you could even have DJ announce toward the end of the night)

I went to a wedding last weekend and they had an after party at the hotel bar. We all paid for our drinks and bought a round for the bridal party. It was nice.

@Melissa - I get the 'etiquette, huh?' thing A LOT! You are not alone.

If you are going to a bar I agree with @beachbride. We are having an after party but going to my FH families pond. We are buying alcohol for the wedding and just using that as the after party. Unless people want something specific they can provide that.

We are doing a lunch reception with beer and wine which we are paying for. After that we are going to hit the bars on Broadway in Nashville but it will be a "hey, we are going here if ya'll want to go" kinda thing. At that point, they can choose to go or not and they will be paying their own tabs.

We are just letting people know where we are going, I've never expected the bride/groom to pay for one so people won't expect you to pay

It seems like people would buy their own drinks and maybe even buy a round for the bride and groom.

We've always paid for our own drinks at after parties. It wasn't a big deal since.

We were planning on doing an after party since the reception is over at 10 and we just want to party all night! We were just going to say hey we're going out to such-and-such, feel free to stop by.

I kind of look as at after parties at weddings like hitting the bar after a dinner party. The host/ess paid the dinner and drinks bill (whether at their home or restaurant) and I'm responsible for my own food/drinks at the bar/after party.

If its a head time plan. I think you pay.

If at the end of the reception you wonder over with whoever is left. They pay their own tab

We just told people the location, said we'd be going there and they could join if they want. People got the hint, paid for themselves lol

We were at a wedding a couple weeks ago where the bride and groom told everyone they were headed to the bar down the street after the reception if anyone wanted to join them. The bride's brother ended up buying the first round for all of us but we were expecting to pay for everything ourselves.

Yeah I concur with saying hey we're hanging at this bar later if ya'll wanna come. That's what we're doing the evening after our wedding in the hotel bar. I'm getting a white sundress to change into for that !

We went to the bar across the street from the hotel and everyone paid their own tab. We just did a basic "we're going across the street if anyone wants to join!"