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Erin
Savvy June 2022

Afraid i haven’t planned enough

Erin, on December 26, 2021 at 10:12 PM Posted in Planning 1 5
Does anyone else feel concerned that they’re not stressed enough about planning, that they haven’t done enough, or that they’re missing something?


My wedding is in June, and as of now we have…- Done engagement photos (not doing save the dates tho) and hired photographer- Scheduled with the church - Booked reception venue, which includes catering (have yet to do a tasting and select menu) - Made our guest list- Made wedding website- ordered cake and topper- Consultation with florist, waiting to receive our list of options- Purchased wedding dress and veil, as well as bridesmaids dresses- Hired DJ- Worked with venue to choose linens package, haven’t discussed specifics yet though
Can someone tell me… am I behind? I feel like I always see people being stressed and I just haven’t been yet, which makes me stressed about not being stressed 😩 I know we still need to send out invitations, order favors, choose groom and groomsmen attire, and purchase a few decor things (vases for our florist, guestbook, maybe a few other miscellaneous things). Am I missing something, or are we about where we should be?

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on December 31, 2021 at 11:27 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    You're absolutely where you should be. Honestly, I wasn't very stressed except for the day before when a few emergencies started popping up.
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  • Allison
    Devoted May 2022
    Allison ·
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    Do you have a hair and makeup artist? If you're planning to get one, I would book one soon!

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  • Erin
    Savvy June 2022
    Erin ·
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    My cousin’s wife is going to do my makeup! I am still looking for a hair stylist- thank you for your advice!!
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    That’s the thing…. I notice that many brides make wedding planning more difficult than it actually is. Honestly, I feel like they desire to stretch the planning out in order to constantly be preoccupied with something wedding related and “feel like a bride” the entire time. But, then stretching out the planning and not making decisions leads them to a stressful place, unnecessarily. I knew exactly what I wanted (and didn’t want). So I remained focus on creating that vision without being distracted by other ideas. So I was done with deciding on decor and booking the venue and vendors in a little over a month. My goal was to get the major planning out of the way and actually enjoy the engagement period. So congrats to you!
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated November 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    You're totally where you should be, and yes it's a good idea to get hair and makeup booked and look for your FH/groomsmen attire sooner rather than later, but those were both pretty quick for us (~6 weeks from order to final fitting for DH's Indochino suit, some groomsmen ordered their suit rentals from Generation Tux as little as 30 days out and it was fine).

    The things that really crept up on me and stressed me out in the last month or two were: 1) Practicing first dances!! (and breaking in my shoes, I never did much of that but thankfully was fine day-of). 2) Ordering the little stuff (like you mentioned, guest book and ceremony items) and waiting for it to arrive (COVID delays are no joke so I'd recommend ordering no less than 2-3 months out in case you have to deal with international shipping). And 3) printing for stuff I designed myself or used Etsy templates for e.g. menus, programs, table numbers, place cards, memorial photo display, etc. The more you can nail down those details ahead of time, the better - then when the big day gets closer, you're mostly just dealing with late RSVP's and confirming final guest count with your venue. And more importantly, taking care of yourself and FH! I was doing too much final-detail stuff the last month when I should've been turning my bathroom into a home spa and sipping a glass of wine, LOL.

    Also - if the feeling of "I must be forgetting something" is stressing you out, I highly recommend making a comprehensive list / spreadsheet of all the stuff you need to have and things you need to do so you can just add to it as you think of things. Then check it weekly for now, daily in the last month or two to see if there's anything you're forgetting. I didn't create my spreadsheet until about a month out, and I wish I'd done it sooner bc once I did it really helped quiet that little "what am I forgetting" voice. :-)

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