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You can announce that you’re eloping, having a small reception afterwards with guests than yes you can tell your guests you’re only doing a honeymoon fund. If you’re not having a reception, after you announce your elopement, & people ask if you’re registered, again yes you can say you only have a honeymoon fund. Other than that, asking for $$ on the announcements is a big no no.

I get where you're coming from, but that's a hardddd no haha. Like Michelle said, you can send announcements out, and some people may just go ahead and send you something, but you definitely can't ask for any gifts.

There is no way of doing that that is not incredibly rude. Just Don't. If people want to give you gifts, fine. But don't ask for or solicit gifts, or money.

Agree with PP. Send out a wedding announcement with a nice picture of your day. If people feel inclined to send a gift they will. But setting up a honeymoon registry is going a bit far to not have included them. They’ll send a check if they want to give a gift.

I would send out an ecard or consider having a virtual prewedding gathering via zoom and in the zoom invite email, it mentions the honeymoon registry.

There is no polite or tactful way of doing this. You never ask for or suggest a wedding gift from people who were not invited to a wedding or properly hosted at a reception. You can send out a wedding announcement after you are married. Some people may choose to send a gift or money after they receive the announcement.

Yeah, sorry, there's no polite way of doing that. That's just one of the trade-offs of having a tiny wedding or eloping: no guests, no gifts.

You can send out wedding announcements, and if people then approach you directly to ask where you're registered, then you could point them to a honeyfund registry. But that info CANNOT go on the announcement itself.

You can not mention anything about money or gifts on an annoucement. Totally inappropriate. Its only okay to mention this honeyfund if someone asks if you are registered (which, if there isn't to be a wedding, they likely wont)

View Quoted Comment It is never appropriate to put gift or registry information on an invitation

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THIS! It's never appropriate to mention registry info on an invitation or announcement.

View Quoted Comment I guess I'm gonna be inappropriate lol. We are having a virtual pre wedding party via zoom that my mom is organizing. She'll be giving out monetary prizes though for game winners, such as amazon gift card etc.

View Quoted Comment I dont think I understand. So your mom is hosting a pre-wedding zoom event that includes games and prizes? Is there a requirement for guests to pay? Its not even clear to me that what you're describing would be a gift giving event, because it is not a wedding or a shower, so why would you mention gifts on the invite?


This is going to come off to your friends as begging for money. It is not a good look

View Quoted Comment Ok. Understood 👍

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I agree with this as well. There's nothing wrong with eloping, but you generally have to be okay with no gifts if you choose to do so.