Advice

The other BMs technically don't need to help plan. Some just aren't the planning type, but if you are then I'd just count on planning alone

I agree with Cher. Also, if you wedding is in May, then her's is in June/July. You really don't need to be worrying about the bachelorette and shower 8-9 months out. I would maybe reach out in like February. People are more focused on the holiday season right now.

I'd be focusing on finishing her planning up sooner rather than later, since you'll be WAY busy as the day gets closer to your wedding. I'd just get basics figured out like a date for the bridal shower & bach so you at least have those set in stone.

I agree with Hannah, that it's a bit early to be so stressed out over this. I also wanted to add that if you are feeling overwhelmed with all that you want to do for your friend, maybe you could reach out to some family members. Her mom? Her FMIL? A lot of times I've seen the mothers take over planning pre-wedding stuff, simply because they have more time, or they have more experience, or both. It's somewhere to start, at least. But yeah, I think waiting until after the holidays are over you may get more enthusiasm from the other BMs.

View Quoted Comment We have only gotten as far as deciding the dates. They show interest and like to throw out ideas but when it comes to actually deciding on things they bail or just dont respond. I'm trying to at least get the shower planned because it's the weekend before my wedding. I'm just looking to see if anyone was in a similar situation and has any advice.

View Quoted Comment Girl, I'm trying! They are dragging their feet. We do have dates but the shower is the weekend before my wedding so I want to get it all done!

I agree with Mrs D, you should definitely get the basics down at least. You want to be a great friend but you are also right in the mix of your own planning!