Advice??

I don't think there's anything selfish about planning your wedding the way you want to plan it.

I think when you're talking Covid - there's nothing selfish anymore. Private wedding with a big celebration at another time is fine if that's what you want

Hey there!
I am a somewhat shy person, that doesn't like being the center of attention.
We had a small wedding planned all along, but when covid-19 hit, we decided to add zoom, for the guests that may not attend. We ended up with the 50 we originally planned for, and 50 via zoom.
I can tell you, that I didn't even notice the guests, or the person taking the video by zoom! I only had eyes for my groom, and my nerves just disappeared as I focused on him and the ceremony.
I'm thankful for the zoom video, since we didn't have a videographer. I didn't realize how much a video would mean to me
If I was you, I would definitely consider it.It isn't a close up video, but definitely worth having to record the day, in my opinion. The guests that can't attend, will be so thrilled to be included.
Congratulations! Sometimes the fear of what may be, is much worse than the reality. I promise, if I can do it, anyone can

View Quoted Comment No, i don’t think so. Especially if it’s small. I am feeling guilt myself though because my wedding reception can’t be postponed without a heft my fee but they will have guidelines in place. Mine is larger than yours.

I'm doing this! I didn't want to invite as many people as we ended up inviting to the big reception anyway, so doing things this way is actually making me feel better about the whole thing over all. We already made the announcement and I've only heard that 2 people are upset about not being included in the smaller ceremony (out of 145 that are invited to the big "wedding" but not the small one).

I don’t think that’s selfish at all either

That's not selfish. It's the responsible thing to do

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Thank you this really helps. Look we ended up streaming to may be 70% of the guests and a few missed out . But we had a videographer. I am thinking of re- inviting them(some are offended) and show the ceremony at the beginning of the reception which I will call" a Celebration of Marriage" which is the same thing anyway. And wearing our attire again.
What to do think of this ? Thank you so much.I am just looking at best options and. What has worked for others

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I think that's a great idea. I think people who really wanted to be at the ceremony will be happy to watch a video of it and I'm sure they'd love to see you in your wedding attire in real life.

It's not selfish, it's actually being quite selfLESS and thinking about everyone's safety.

Zoom weddings are becoming quite the thing here, which I think is amazing.

We got married last year, and we had a cousin facetime in DH's grandfather, because he couldn't travel. Sometimes, technology does more good than bad, and I love that.

I don't think its selfish at all. in fact its more selfless as you are protecting your health and the health of your family and friends during this pandemic. im sure they will be happy to celebrate with you when its safer to do so. were planning a micro wedding and will zoom/ livestream for family who can't be there. and we're planning on a backyard celebration on our first anniversary if possible.

Not selfish at all! Most people have never had to deal with something like this, especially while planning their wedding. Do whatever your heart desires!

I think this is totally fine! Some people will have a small ceremony and larger reception all in one day with just separate invite lists without COVID being an issue, so doing it for COVID is definitely understandable.