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Jessica
Savvy August 2022

Advice would be nice!

Jessica, on February 23, 2021 at 7:32 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

My Sister who would have been my Maid of Honor passed away last year. We were in the middle of planning her wedding when she passed. I am really excited to get married but planning things without her input has been very hard. Some days I'm in full throttle planning mode, and then other days I just feel like I don't want to even think of any of it. Anyone have any suggestions of ways and things I could try to pull me out of that slump?

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Latest activity by Janae, on February 23, 2021 at 8:27 PM
  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    I just wanted to say I am so sorry you lost your sister who was one of your closest friends. I can only imagine it would be so incredibly hard to deal with that loss in the middle of planning your wedding. I don't have advice to offer, just wanted to say that feeling like you are in a planning slump without her is totally valid.

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  • Lauren
    Expert July 2021
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Try and keep her spirit with you in your planning. Think about things she enjoyed and see if you can incorporate them in. I lost my best friend a few years ago and I find that remembering what she liked and what she would say if she knew I was down helped.



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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
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    I’m so sorry. The loss of your sister has to be extremely difficult, and I’m sure wedding planning can be a trigger, as you were clearly going to be a huge part of each others’ weddings and going through this together. Allow yourself to feel these emotions and to take breaks to grieve when you need to. Don’t be afraid to bring her up or talk about her during the planning process. What would she like or dislike? What would make her laugh? How would she have reacted to certain situations or moments? Suppressing feelings only makes it worse. A counselor or therapist may be helpful, as well.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
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    Oh my heart just breaks for you, I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away in 2018 (on my birthday) & I wish I can say it gets easier but I’ve just learned to live with it better... I just visualize her, wondering what she’d think of my choices & hearing her response in my head...
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  • Janae
    Dedicated April 2021
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    I'm sorry for your loss. You can find a way to include her. I'm sure she is watching down on you wanting you to be happy. Make sure you don't overwhelm yourself and reach out to others in your corner for help if you need it.
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