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Champion July 2019

Advice (trigger warning)

Veronica, on January 8, 2019 at 10:59 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5

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I know in my other discuss I asked for advice since my maid of honor stepped down, but now I am asking g for advice on having learned she was talking about me behind my back for months. Her and I are supposed to talk tomorrow I am very upset she has been saying awful things about my fiance and I. She was accusing my fiance of things he never did. She was saying that we make her uncomfortable because she went to a taco event with us and she was third wheel. She was complaining about how she doesn't like my fiance. She was also complaining because she felt I was too anxious to get married. My family doesn't want anything to do with her because they were the ones she was telling all this stuff to and it upset them and made them uncomfortable. My family is also concerned she is jealous because a lot of her friends are engaged and planning their weddings and she has been with the same guy for seven years and he hasn't proposed, but she has told him throughout that time she doesn't want to marry him. They think she might still some feelings of resentment towards me. Do you think I should confront her tomorrow about the things she said about my fiance and I? Do you think she should even still be in the wedding?

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Latest activity by Veronica, on January 9, 2019 at 5:05 PM

Devoted January 2019
Nicole · on January 8, 2019 at 11:20 PM
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NO WAY !!!!!!! She means you no good
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Kenisha · on January 8, 2019 at 11:41 PM
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What would you gain from confronting her?
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Expert July 2019
Cara · on January 8, 2019 at 11:56 PM
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If you feel like confronting her about what she said about you will give you peace of mind and help clear the air, then confront her. I wouldn’t bring in the accusations of jealousy or resentment though, stick to the facts of what you know she said. Depending on how that goes I would say it’s totally fine excluding her from your bridal party. You don’t want that negativity next to you on your big day.
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Veronica · on January 9, 2019 at 12:20 PM
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My biggest problem is that she accused my fiance of rape and told my mother that he raped me. My fiance and I had broken up for a very brief time after only dating for about 4 months. During that time, I had been hanging out with my MOH a lot. Another friend, my MOH, and I were playing never have I ever. My MOH and other friend were taking shots, but I wasn't because I don't drink. A question about sex came up and I had a complete breakdown because my fiance and I had only been broken up for about two weeks. I was not the one to end the relationship and I was still in love with him. He was also the person I lost my virginity to. At the time, I told her how when we first had sex I was nervous/scared because I had never had sex and didn't know what to expect, but he had. I also told her that things started getting pretty heated between my fiance and I so he suggested stopping because he didn't want to rush me. At that point, I told him yes I was sure I wanted to have sex, but that I was nervous. He proceeded to ask me multiple times if I was sure. He takes rape very seriously because his mother was raped in college. I told him multiple times yes so there was no possible way it was rape. I told her although I was nervous/scared it was what I wanted otherwise it wouldn't have happened. She felt he forced because he recommended I go home so we didn't take things further than I was comfortable. She has since bought this up to me one other time and I told her no he did not rape me you have this all wrong and that I was simply nervous. I feel her anger at him for breaking my heart mixed with her drinking caused her to think something that isn't true. This conversation during never have I ever occurred almost three years ago and when my fiance and I were broken up. We have obviously since gotten back together. We were broken up for exactly two months. We broke up in June 2016 and got back together in August 2016. I moved in with him in October 2016. Shortly after getting back together with him, my MOH wouldn't speak to me for 1-2 months because she was mad I got back together with him. She was also not happy when I moved in with him. She is clearly still not happy with my decision, but it is my decision. I love my fiance very much so she should be happy that I'm happy. I'm not a fan of her boyfriend, but I don't talk badly about him or accuse him of stuff he didn't do.
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Veronica · on January 9, 2019 at 5:05 PM
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At this point, I don't want the negatively she brings into my life yet alone my wedding.
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