A little back story...My FH and I had a difficult time when were deciding our guest lists because we have fairly large families with lots of kids and lots of friends (we have been dating for over 8 years) so we had to create a clear boundary of who could be invited and who could not based on this. IE we aren't having kids and/or if we invite this cousin we have to invite the equivalent etc etc. So during this time my FH's mom had a few friends that she wanted to invite, a few that my FH knows and was in his life growing up, which was totally fine and we agreed. There is one, however, that she wants to invite that was never in his life growing up and the only reason they are friends is because SHE (FH's mom) was active in HER (the friends) life growing up. So although my FH's mom has ties to her friends family, the friend's only tie to my FH is his mom. In addition, throughout the past few years this friend went through a personal tragedy and all my FH and I have heard from his mom about her is all the horrible things she has said and done to his mom when she is just trying to be a good friend. (like really terrible things to the point she declared they were not friends because she could not take the "abuse" (for lack of a better word)) Therefore, we made the decision (and sat down and talked with the mom in person) that she was not invited and we were sorry but we had to draw the line somewhere. (another back story these parents are extreme people pleasers and had a wedding of 500+ and we are inviting 200)
Fast forward to now...Save the dates went out so I'm sure they got theirs in the mail and my FH's mom has my FH's dad call him basically saying "you need to invite this friend, please just do it blah blah" My FH is obviously wanting to concede to just make everyone happy but I am feeling rather manipulated. We have sat down, had a conversation about this, and although she may not have agreed with our decision, we made the decision with her and now, she's using her husband and emotions to get her way. I do have a strong personality so I am wondering if I am being ridiculous if we hold our ground. I am obviously a little miffed about this situation and need some clarity from an unbiased source.
Thanks in advance for your advice.
