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Dannie
Beginner June 2020

Advice? problem solvers Plz! wine bar post ceremony, pre reception..but

Dannie, on November 8, 2019 at 2:06 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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Hello ladies-

I am having serious anxiety about this scenario/details. Here we go..


We are getting married in Armstrong Woods Redwoods in Northern California.

Our reception is at a local restaurant's party venue we love, about 20-25 minutes away.


my FH thought of doing a wine bar at the ceremony, cocktail hour so to speak. So we could enjoy the redwoods/outside a little longer, get photos, mingle, and avoid adding to our open bar tab at dinner. (one of our good friends manages the Coppola winery and gets stellar deals, so we hoped to save a little within this aspect).


I am struggling with if its "okay" or not for guests to drive between ceremony/reception. I dont anticipate anyone getting hammered at the wine bar, probably a glass or two just to relax. On the flip side for those saying "just hire transportation", its out of the budget, we have about 75 guests or so.


Am i overthinking it? Can i just assume adults will be adults, have a DD, or just limit themselves appropriately, or should i cancel the wine bar aspect, because as i've reached out, the transportation rental just doesnt seem feasible.


suggestions, advice, please!!

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Latest activity by Melle, on November 8, 2019 at 9:03 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I don’t necessarily think you’d have an issue with people overindulging, but are you allowed to have glass bottles or alcohol where the ceremony is happening?
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  • Lauren
    VIP September 2019
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    Are you allowed to serve alcohol at your ceremony site? If it is a public/state/national park I would look carefully at the contract/permit/rules.

    Also if you are allowed to you might need a licensed bartender or you will assume all liability for your guests consuming alcohol (i.e. if they get into an accident after leaving the ceremony...etc).

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  • Dannie
    Beginner June 2020
    Dannie ·
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    Good questions ladies!! So we had filled out our contract that yes we will serve alcohol and therefore pay an additional fee to have a ranger there to observe for safety & ensure we are following the rules (glass bottles ok, we have plastic glasses for guests) and no requirement for licensed bartender. Although a handful of our guests have that cert if needed!! They allow it, just additional contract/payment.


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  • Dannie
    Beginner June 2020
    Dannie ·
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    *see below comment*

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  • Dannie
    Beginner June 2020
    Dannie ·
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    Yes! They give that option when booking the site, just required an additional fee for a ranger to be present for safety reasons.

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I like the idea of a wine bar after the ceremony to enjoy the space a little longer. I have never heard of it and think it is fun. I have seen people do this before the ceremony to allow guests to mingle with one another. This could be another option to allow the alcohol to soak up some during the ceremony Smiley laugh . But I am with you on your ending statement of "adults will be adults". You shouldn't have to stress about your guests being responsible. I think most people know their limit and will behave.

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    I think your idea is great. I wouldn't worry so much about people overindulging and 20-25 minutes is perfectly fine to drive in between!

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    It sounds like a nice touch and fun for your guests. To me it’s no different than serving drinks at the reception. Adults are responsible for themselves and their actions so go with what you want and enjoy it.
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
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    They'll figure it outSmiley smile I wouldn't worry about it at all. I think your idea is great!

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think it's perfectly okay for people to drive from ceremony to reception
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