Advice please

Oof that's a tough one. I don't know if there is any good way other than being direct and saying something like, "so I know I'm new, but I am getting married on x date and we already had our honeymoon booked prior to me interviewing for this position. Is there any way we can work this out?" He may have to bite the bullet and get it unpaid, if they even allow him to do that, unless maybe he can work extra hours other days or something. That last option may not be an option depending on where he works/what he does. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Luckily the wedding is in December and it is a family owned company. It’s just so nerve wrecking 😩

I think it will be fine, as long as he tells them right away.
Good luck!
Let us know how it goes🤞🤞

I think it'll be fine, some companies allow you to take it ahead of time before you even accrued it. And some would just be lenient knowing that's your situation

View Quoted Comment I have never heard of that! Thank you

I think it will be ok. Do not think he will get it payed. You may just have to see. Did you already buy the honeymoon. If it is in d
December people already have off can you reschedule the honeymoon?

View Quoted Comment Everything is paid for as we have been engaged for about a year now.

I'm starting a new job a month before the wedding and I told then and they were totally fine with it, but I'd make sure to tell them when he talks to them. It's not a big deal.

For future reference, this is a topic that should come up at the moment an offer is made, before an acceptance is given. Most employers will be very understanding but they want...and NEED...to know this. Offer received, mention to the recruiter "I am getting married on XXX and have a honeymoon already paid for...will this be a problem?"

A good employer will actually ask once you get further through the process..."Do you have any commitments that will affect your schedule over the next 6-12 months, such as vacations or family events, that will require time off?" This is one of my standard questions.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree with this. Even though it was a quick interview process, there was opportunity for this to be discussed before any commitments were made. As an employer, I’d be slightly annoyed something this major hasn’t been brought to my attention. However, what is done is done. They will probably make him take the time unpaid. Best case scenario, they may allow him to use the time he’s not actually accrued yet and will then have to forfeit it once he does actually earn the time.

Be prepared for it unpaid.
Have him say
I'm sorry I didn't tell you sooner but I am getting married and going on my honeymoon (dates to dates) what do you recommend for the time off?
Most places will work with you, if it's small and family owned they might be more reasonable.

I agree with previous posters, he really should have told them before accepting the job. A great opportunity would have been when they explained no vacation time given for the first year. Hopefully they won’t be too annoyed, and as a small business they will be open to making an exception. I think best case scenario is he will get unpaid time off, but you should look into options to reschedule your honeymoon now.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately no, today is the first time he is meeting his actual manager the person in charge of his actual schedule who controls his time off so he could not have told them before. It had nothing to do with the people he was meeting. They would have just said to talk with his manager at first meeting. His manager was on vacation when he was hired.

View Quoted Comment When he interviewed it was not with the person who will be in control of his schedule due to him being on vacation. It never came up with the people in charge of taking that over for him if that makes sense. He will be meeting him for the first time today.

View Quoted Comment Honeymoon is paid for already as we have been engaged for a year but thank you for the advice.

View Quoted Comment He could have made mention of it even if the manager wasn’t available but what’s done is done. Are you prepared to reschedule your honeymoon if they say no? I’ve worked for small family run companies before and I’ve never been able to take a full vacation before earning PTO. A few days sure but not more than that.

View Quoted Comment No, it’s paid for so we are prepared for him to quit if necessary. They offer leaves of absence so he might look into that.

View Quoted Comment Also it’s not a small company. Quite large but family owned and operated.

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Even so, I still think he should have told whoever he was interviewing with. Even if they would have said, talk to your manager, at least he was doing his due diligence.

My FH will be starting a new job a month before wedding and they told him that if he needs off for any reason he would have to get with his crew supervisor when he starts.

I don't think this should be a problem. The employer should understand but, there is a chance that they might not understand nor care because he is new. But, my experience with this is my employers always gave me the time off. No problems at all.

The only good thing is he just probably needs off the Friday before wedding and maybe Monday after wedding or not even. Because we aren't doing our honeymoon right away. When we are is when he will already have 2 weeks of vacation accumulated.

I think it'll work out. Be strait forward and go from there.