Advice on moh drama

Hi..I’ve never done one of these before but I feel very conflicted if I should ask my MOH to no longer be apart of the wedding party. I’ve been engaged for nearly 2.5 years (due to COVID) and my wedding is now less than 2 months away. When I originally got engaged, I already had an idea who I wanted as my bridal party. Right now I have 2 MOH. We can call them M and F. F reached out the day after I got engaged stating “I’m going to be your MOH right? You were mine so I should be yours.” F called me one day and said “I’m getting married in 2 weeks and you and M are going to be my MOHs (her long term bf at the time joined the navy). She had a small court house wedding then moved out of state. M & I made sure to throw her a Bach party and do the best we could with the time restraint. M was always going to be my MOH but from the start I felt bad telling F no. Well throughout the first year, there was not much to plan. I picked out 10 different bridesmaids dresses and sent a group chat to pick which one they liked for their body type and personality. I stressed the importance of getting the dress/shoes by 07/2022 since things are a bit delayed with shipping etc. everybody was fine with that since it gave them over 1.5 years to plan. I had a talk with each girl in the bridal party privately regarding financial situations and I tried to make sure I was not making anyone go above their means. Each dress was $80 and shoes were $15. I offered to pay for hair, makeup, nails and getting ready outfits. Fast forward to this year…F has barely talked to me and each time we do talk..it’s all about her and her life stressors. M & F had a falling out months ago because M called F selfish and said she isn’t a good friend. I had to be in the middle and give F the benefit of the doubt. F reached out to me in August and asked me to pay for 4 plane tickets for the wedding (her, husband, and 2 kids) when the kids aren’t even invited to the wedding. She then proceeded to tell me she had not gotten the dress or shoes yet. I talked with her on the phone for hours about how I felt and what she may be going through personally. I offered for her to step out of the bridal party if she needed to because I didn’t want to add any additional stress or financial obligations on her plate. When we started looking at the dresses together, every dress was booked out past the wedding date now. She said it would be fine and she would get a dress/shoes. By this time, I was already frustrated because she asked me to pay for the plane tickets, she didn’t have a dress/shoes, hasn’t asked me if there was anything I may need help with (even just me to vent). She claimed that things were rough financially. I completely understand and didn’t want to add to that but what frustrated me is that she is on FB and IG constantly at the bar, getting hair/nails done, going to concerts, got a brand new car, Starbucks daily etc. The rest of the bridal party planned a Bach trip and I planned the bridal shower with my mom and MIL for the same weekend since some girls were flying in. F was completely silent in the group chat for MONTHS. Then all of a sudden 2 weeks before the weekend, she planned on coming and being involved. She flew out the week of and never said a word to me. Not “hi, I’m here, can’t wait to see you.” Nothing. She posted about going bar hopping and meeting up with friends. The day of the bach party, the plan was to meet at dinner at 7pm then we would all go together to the hotel then out. At 6pm F texted the group chat that she would be an hour late because she had to take care of her kids. Some of the bridesmaids got frustrated and said that she knew about this for weeks and could have planned better. Things then escalated when they saw her posting on Snapchat about going to the bar all day then just arriving at a tattoo shop for a new tattoo. Instead of showing up 1 hour late, she missed dinner and going out. She didn’t meet up with us until close to midnight. By this time, she called each bridesmaid, myself, my fiancé, my brother, her parents were calling me over 100 times etc. because she couldn’t find us at the bars. We were dancing and not on our phones. When she got there, the whole vibe was off. Every single person was mad at her and thought she was being selfish. She ended up going home that night instead of staying with us. The next morning we were all together at brunch and she texted the group asking about brunch and what to wear. Which again we were already there and done eating! There’s so many details of the night that would take me an hour to put here. But long story short, my fiancé doesn’t want her in the bridal party for the sake of me. Every bridesmaid doesn’t want her in the bridal party for the sake of me. She really hurt my feelings this last bridal weekend. I didn’t expect her to pay anything but just be present and have fun with me. I ended up paying for the dinner and hotel room (again, each girl is in different financial positions than me and I don’t mind doing that stuff as long as I am surrounded by my friends/family). That’s why I’m mad. I feel like she slapped me in the face. Getting a tattoo was more important than just spending time with me especially when we live in different states now. She continually makes things about her and her stress which I have always been there to listen and give her the benefit of the doubt. But the one time that I needed her or truly the entire wedding process, she has not been there. Not even materialistic stuff but just as a friend to talk to or vent to. She will continually twist it around to make it about herself. I feel like if I keep her in the wedding party, I’m going to continue stressing up until my wedding day- is she going to show up, will she be late, etc. Should I ask her to just be a guest at this point? Or what do I do?…