Advice on how to word "no kid wedding"

I saw someone write adults only. Or one made it fun and said "make it a date night and leave the kiddos at home"

I just said something along the lines of “We love the little ones- we really do! But we want our wedding to be your night off.”

I would just address the envelope to exactly who is invited and put __ seats reserved on your RSVP card. If they try to RSVP for more then you can follow up and tell them there’s been a misunderstanding. I had a friend put __ of ___ adults attending on her RSVP card but I don’t think that will work for you since you’re inviting some kids.

On the save the date & invite envelope, address it to only the parents "Mr. & Mrs. Smith". On the RSVP card put "___ out of ___ attending" and fill out the second line with the number of adults attending. I'd tell immediate family & wedding party so they can answer if anyone asks them.

As PP's said, only address to the people invited with number of seats reserved. I plan on doing an FAQ section on our wedding website with a "Are children allowed?" and an answer along the lines of "Unfortunately due to the size of our venue and guest list, we will not be able to accommodate any children" or something like that lol.

It's not really polite to state who isn't invited, so I really think the "_ attending out of _ " wording is the way to go!

Make sure your bridal party and parents spread the word to the cousins with kids or whoever it is that is likely to get peeved and tell them far ahead of RSVP time. That being said, online RSVP is also a great way to avoid people writing in kids-people are ONLY able to RSVP for the people that were actually invited, which is why we are doing it (plus saving on return postage)

Honestly on the RVSP I simply had # of adults RSVP and everyone got the hint. A few people texted/called us & ask if we were having kids, but no one included kids on their response.

On our invites we put "kid free event".

I made the mistake of not being blunt enough.

I thought the words "Formal reception" indicated a formal event, and not one where you would bring children. I thought this, paired with the actual venue itself would elude to the fact that children were not meant to be a part of this affair.

Well, I was wrong. I got steamrolled big time and now have 13 children attending my wedding. I'm trying not to let it kill me inside.

But my advice? If you want NO KIDS, state that YOU WANT NO KIDS.

I have seen the seat reserved method but I think that’s vague and they could use one of those seats for a kid. Another way you could do it is something like “adult only reception to follow” or please join us for an adult only ceremony with a reception to follow.

We put “Adults only please” on both our wedding website and the reception card included with our invite.

We were all children once...
Why are children not allowed but "the ones in the wedding" are?

View Quoted Comment Because my wedding is already at 300 people and if I allowed all the children I’d have upwards of 450 and I just can’t afford. It’s something I went back and forth on for awhile. If I had a smaller guest count they’d for sure be able to come.

Please do not write things like enjoy your date night. You are doing NO Kids for you, not for them.

On your RSVP cards, you can hand write the names.

Adult affair only. Thats what I’ll be putting on my invite. Straight to the point

Wow, that's incredible!!!
I read somewhere on the internet..to invite only the people you want to attend. For example, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" instead "THE SMITH FAMILY."
However, this didn't work well for me as we had many people over count. This sucked because I could not invite extra friends, guests, co-workers. Then, at the end all the 'extras' did not show up and I could had invited my co-wokers.
Invites are very tricky!!!

Maybe alot the names of guests only on RSVP. Then, they'll accept or decline.

We listed on our site along with some other notations "this will be an adult only wedding, no kiddos please." and we printed it on the back of invites (pictured here)

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