Advice on having my 4 month old daughter in my father's 2nd wedding?

Eh, I'm with your husband on this one. I wouldn't want to entertain a 4 month old all day, especially because she's still going to need 2-3 naps a day at that point.

I think this depends on your baby, if she's pretty laid back and goes with the flow she will be fine. If she's a little more high maintenance than I would say no.

I'm with your husband on this also. Your daughter is 4mths old, there's nothing she could do for the wedding aside from maybe adding a cuteness factor. If that's the case then your baby is just a prop. I wouldn't use my child as a prop.

I think it's fine. Will you be walking her down the aisle? As for the reception just bring your stroller so she can sleep when she wants. I'll have 2 very young babies at my wedding. I don't see the issue.

Yeah I think this could work for part of the day, but I wouldn't want to entertain all day. Is there going to be a place where the baby can rest and get away from everyone for a while? Or someone that can babysit after the ceremony? Otherwise I think I'm with your hubby on this one.. to much stimulation!

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Yes, myself and soon to be step sister would be walking down the isle with our babies in a double stroller, they're 4 weeks apart.

My dad also wants my husband and step sisters husband to be involved with babies in a sand pouring.

This could go either way it all depends how the baby is feeling that day....at some point she may get cranky

I had planned to dress up a pack and play for the babies during the ceremony and have them in walkers/ pack and plays later on.

Besides the two things described above, we don't have any other 'jobs' in the wedding, so I'm really OK with having baby all day. At this point she's very chill. That may change in a few months, which would probably change my mind, but as it stands now I think we can work something out.

Wedding is in July and outdoors.

July wedding outdoors? I'd be so hot, and having a hot uncomfortable child wouldn't be fun. I don't care how laid back she is, she won't enjoy being out in the heat.

And how are the babies going to participate in a sand ceremony?

Does the venue have space for a pack and play? Because mine doesn't, and it would really end up being a safety hazard to have one set up. Plus, there's really no way for baby to sleep with all the noise from conversation and DJ.

If you have the option, I'd leave her home with someone. That's my two cents.

I'm with your husband. My son will be almost 20mo. At our wedding and I'm dreading on entertaining him throughout the day. I'm Definatly hiring a sitter so I can enjoy the reception. He was a very "hard" baby and I couldn't imagine entertaining him at 4mo.

I wouldn't do it. That baby is not going to be in the mood for all that stimulation. Poor thing

I appreciate all the honest opinions. Of course so did the husband ??

Children are not props.

I am firmly in the camp that if they can't understand what is being asked of them, they are too young to participate.

What good is a 4 month old in a wedding? That doesn't make any sense.

I took my son to my cousins wedding. He was 6 months, he slept through almost the whole thing. He was awake for photos, but then slept through the whole reception!