Our flower girls are two 3 year old girls - one is my cousin's daughter and the other is my FH's cousin's daughter (her dad will also be the best man). I asked his wife in person if little Suzie can be our flower girl. I told her that she would just need to get the dress, attend rehearsal, and the wedding (of course). Suzie's mom agreed. I dropped off a book and proposal card for Suzie at her grandma's house (FH's aunt's house) and sent Suzie's mom the link to get the dress....that was a few months ago. I noticed it took a long time for Suzie's mom to reply back but I cut her slack - she's a working mom (no excuse but it's a way to not stress so much).
It is now July, the wedding is in the beginning of September. Suzie's mom called me at midnight and texted me,
"So sorry i have not been on top of this! Do you still want her to be your flower girl? Can i just venmo you the money and you get the dress? I haven't ordered yet! Let me know!"
I normally would get it but it's another thing on my list to worry about. Right now, I'm currently going through:
- planning the wedding
- working
- job searching/networking/workshops (just graduated)
- apartment searching (FH and I have not lived together yet)
Also, I know it seems so small but the whole "you teach people how to treat you" thing comes in to mind. We are ALL busy, no matter what the circumstance. Me just ordering this dress may send the message for things in the future, especially when I have kids. If she took the time to text and call me, she can easily click on the link I gave her and order it. I think there's still time and it's not an issue. Money is not an issue either. Here's what I'm thinking of saying,
"HI Debbie! Thanks for texting me. We would still love to have Suzy as a flower girl. If you feel like it's too much and can't do it, just let us know. No worries. It's not too late yet and there's still time to order if you do it soon. I'm not doing orders. I just sent the link to the other flower girl's mom. They should also have this dress available in stores. If the dress is too much and out of budget, let me know. I have another dress I have in mind and I can send you the link. Also, we're having rehearsal on "XXX", the day before the wedding. It'll most likely be in the afternoon. I"ll be sending you details soon. Hope you guys can make it! Let me know if there's anything else I can help with!"
It seems easier to just order it but seeing how it takes forever for her to respond to text, she may spend a long time trying to pay me back. I know she intends to but that's a whole other mess.