Hi, this is my first post, but it's been eating at me and I'm not sure what I should do. I'm sorry it reads like a soap opera, such is life sometimes.
I have a fairly large, closely knit extended family. However, I hate one of my uncles (my mom's sister's husband) and do not want him at my wedding. A few years ago it was discovered that not only was he cheating on my aunt (with whom he has 5 kids aged 13-22) with multiple women, but years ago habitually sexually harassed my other aunt (his own wife's younger sister) when she was in her early 20's. From what I heard, this included pinning her on a couch and pulling on her pants. The younger aunt kept it a secret for all these years, as she is now in her 40s, but finally broke and told my mom and other siblings. This uncle is a grade A narcissist and though we all hoped for a divorce, his wife is too blinded by "love" and dependence.
My cousins, being young still and at the time it happened, know nothing of the sexual harassment, only of the cheating. I have not spoken more than a few words to my uncle in the years since finding out and, whenever possible, leave the room if he enters. After the news broke and eventually settled, he knows not to speak much when he's around for birthday parties or otherwise. Most of the older family members play nice in order to keep things settled for the kids (who think he's a great dad), and us younger ones ignore him.
I loathe him. I also don't think that my other aunt (whom he assaulted) should be forced to be near him at my wedding. However, I feel that not inviting him would cause even more drama that might hurt and confuse my cousins and stir up emotions.
Would you invite him? I feel like this is lose-lose.
