Advice for older bride and father/daughter dance

First of all, you can have time walk you down the aisle or dance with you or neither or both. As for walking down the aisle, that's all personal preference and I don't think it has anything to do with living with him. I'm 23 and I haven't lived with my dad since I was 18, so I'm younger but still not reliant on him. It's just a nice moment to have together.

The father daughter dance is also completely optional. If it doesn't mean too much to him, it's perfectly fine to skip. I went to a wedding last year where the bride and groom skipped all dances, including the first dance, and it was fun as a guest to have more "free" time.

As for the songs, I agree that a lot of them are super cringeworthy. I'm using a more typical song with my dad, but we actually did a dance together at his recent wedding and danced to "It's a Wonderful World". A crowdpleaser and nice song, but not specific to fathers and daughters which we liked.

I know it's nice to get advice and other opinions, but in the end, whatever you chose will be fine. You definitely aren't too old to be doing any of these things, but they aren't necessary if you don't want them.

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Thank you, I want to have him do it. If I ask him, it will be "whatever you want" . Need to find a non corny song.

I am 41 and just got married. I haven't lived with my dad since I was a child. Both my parents walked me down the aisle and my dad and I did a father daughter dance. He was very nervous before hand but we had a fun time dancing. I did choose the song which was My Wish by Rascal Flatts.

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Oh that's a good one. Thank you

I am not having my dad walk me down the isle either. He did the first time, I just don't feel like he needs to "give me away" again. I am having my 2 sons walk me down the isle - since we've been on our own for 6 years and I just feel like it's been "us" managing life together. Anyway I was having a hard time finding a good father/daughter dance song since they are all too corny for me. My dad is a HUGE Bob Dylan fan - that's pretty much all I heard him listen to when I was a kid. So I searched the internet for his songs and decided on Forever Young by Bob Dylan. It's not a typical sappy father/daughter dance song but fits us.

I suggest doing a google search for good songs - I ran across a TON of different lists to find my music.

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Yes, I am googling now...lol Thanks

Hi Kimberly! I think that is totally up to you and how you feel about it! I don't think you are too old to have him escort you down the aisle or have a father daughter dance! Is that something that would mean a lot to him? As for a song, you could always just find a song that is one of your favorites between the two of you, I know that my dad and I aren't mushy so we are doing a song that's special to us!

I understand how you feel. My dad "gave me away" the first time. This time, I am having my 3 sons walk me down. I don't think we are doing any formal dances, FH lost his mother years ago. But I do plan on dancing with my dad..just not alone on the dance floor.

We danced to "Just The Way You Look Tonight" by Frank Sinatra last time. It's a timeless song....and his version is not so slow and mushy like Tony Bennett. Frank's puts a little kick in your step.

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My ex-husband volunteered to give me away at my second wedding. His theory was that if my father had given me away to him the first time around, he could give me to my new wife the second time.

Needless to say, I didn't take him up on that. (Actually, no one gave me away either time.) But I think his walking you down the aisle or having a father/daughter dance is optional, regardless of your age/number of previous marriages. It's really a question of what you'd like.