We’ve been married 2+ years and once you’re married, it’s impostor still date. We’ve fallen into a routine and need to change up our outings. It doesn’t have to be dinner out for me! Just once a month I’d like to do a walk/coffee date, bike ride or something different.
Make time for date night! Esp when life gets stressful you need to make sure to have an evening sometimes for just the two of you and you don't talk about the things in life that are stressing you out.
Be ok with disagreeing sometimes. Arguments will happen. Don't take them too personally and hold a grudge. Talk it out and realize it was just a small moment in your marriage and most moments are wonderful.
When they seem like they are feeling down or stressed out try to go the extra mile and give them an extra hug and kiss and do extra nice things to remind them they are there for you. We both do this and it really helps.
1. If you’re upset, TALK ABOUT IT TO HIM. And use “I feel xyz when this happens” rather than “you did this” statements, it allows for the problem to be a problem without you attacking your partner 2. Laugh together! 3. Don’t stop making memories whether that be going grocery shopping together and making a race down the aisles out of it or having holiday traditions
Don’t fight dirty. It’s unrealistic to expect your marriage to be happy all the time, arguments and even fights happen! It’s normal, but it’s how you fight that will determine how healthy your relationship is. NEVER bring up the past and NEVER resort to name calling. Fighting dirty is never a healthy way to solve a dispute.
Notice the little things. You fall into a routine, it’s easy for life to become mundane and those little things they do for you to go unnoticed. Acknowledge that your spouse cares about you. Maybe they cooked dinner or left you a cute text. The little things matter just as much as the bigger things. Never let your spouse feel like their gestures are taken for granted.
Date. Life gets busy, make time to still date. Go see a movie, go have a coffee or lunch date, heck just make an extra special meal together. Never stop dating.
Talk about the hard stuff. Do you have a game plan if one of you is hospitalized, suddenly disabled or even dies? These topics make us uncomfortable but you have to be on the same page. What will you do if your spouse suddenly needs a caretaker, or is in a coma? As spouse you will be next of kin. You need to know your partner’s wishes.
Communication is key! (In the face...not just on the phone, through text, social media...talk together face-to-face. Social media is the enemy.) Compromise I'd say is #2.
Talk finances, talk about kids/no kids, talk about all the crazy things, and have fun Life is too short to waste it arguing. Stay true to yourselves and remember sometimes it's okay to not be together every minute of each day. You'll realize a weekend with him away with the guys on a fishing trip is actually rather peaceful LOL but when he returns you realize, yea I missed him, he's the best!
Congratulations on your special day! Communication is key make sure you both communicate I cannot stress how important that is, Put the cell phones down and spend quality time with one another, Don't go to bed angry and don't sweat the small stuff
Keep God first, communication, communication, intimacy, communication, remember you are united think as so. Be fair , remember your vows, love yourself and each other oh and communicate. I'm not yet married but we have been together 11 years living together for 5.5 years and through prayer and communication we will have 50+ more!