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Adult/teen children's role in wedding?

Phae, on July 25, 2017 at 2:24 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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My husband and I have 6 kids, ages 26-16. We're having a vow renewal for our 25th anniversary. Our oldest was there for our original wedding, but she was only a baby and my sister just held her for most of the event.

We don't know if we want bridesmaids/groomsmen, and ring bearer/flower girl seems more like a toddler thing. Plus there's a serious disproportion - 5 girls and 1 boy. Our oldest 3 also live out of state.

I don't really know what to do with them, if anything lol? I don't want to involve some kids and not the others, it's kind of all or none.

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Latest activity by MrsB, on July 25, 2017 at 3:26 PM

Michael V · on July 25, 2017 at 2:36 PM
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With their given ages and that three of them are out of the house, best just to let them sit back and celebrate your 25 years together. Best wishes!
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IItsumo · on July 25, 2017 at 2:42 PM
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It honestly is up to you I agree they are to old to be in the flower girl/ ring bearer. We have my FH 3 kids being a Jr Brides Maid and Jr Grooms Men but they are 14,12, and 10. Our daughter together will be exactly 1 week short of 2 and will be our flower girl. However, in your case they are all older and with their being more girls then boys it would be seriously uneven also it would be impossible to pic a maid of honor with in your own children as they are all equally special. My advice would be to let them just enjoy or have them be part of the ceremony in other ways if your planning on doing a sand ceremony you could make it a family one.
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Phae · on July 25, 2017 at 2:56 PM
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If I were to give advice, I'd say 1. Never stop listening and 2. Never stop getting to know each other. It's easy to feel like you know absolutely everything about him, like you know his stories by heart and how his day probably went. But there's always something you can learn about each other. Even years later.
I've never actually seen a sand ceremony irl, I'll look at that, thanks!
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MrsB · on July 25, 2017 at 3:26 PM
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For a vow renewal, I love to see children participate in the ceremony, whether it's as a "wedding party" type thing or as something else. For example, if my parents were to renew their vows (35 years this year!), I'd love to do a reading or something like that.
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