Adults Only Wording?

Just address the invites to the people who are invited (Mr. and Mrs. Smith not The Smith Family)

If you must, you can put it on the website, but the only proper way to do it is to just be very clear in who is invited. People hate on double envelopes a lot, but it has the benefit of listing exactly who is invited without confusion. If you are doing paper RSVPs, some people indicate how many seats are reserved on that paper, and if you go with online RSVPs many systems will not allow a guest to add more people to their RSVP.

Word of mouth. Only put those invited on the envelope. You're not supposed to say who's not invited. On our RSVPs, I did include a line for the guests to put down the # attending

If you have a wedding website you can post it there. Like S&P said- make sure your invitations are worded correctly.

Okay this might be frowned upon, however, my very professional invitation designer has used on several occasion's this wording for couples that face venue restrictions. My venue has a restriction of 18 and up due to the ranch setting, and their rules about alcohol on the premises. The wording she gave me was:

"You know we love your kids (some of them, we love even more than you!). but our venue sadly cannot accommodate those under the age of 18."

We thought about spreading the news word of mouth, but honestly there is just too many people to talk to that I don't even know (on FH's side of the family). MIL is refusing to talk to them about it. So this line seemed our best bet. We put it at the bottom of our RSVP.

I've seen "adult only reception to follow" on the invitations and that didn't seem rude at all

We're putting this on the website based on a few suggestions on wording: "While we would love to celebrate with your entire family, our wedding ceremony and reception will be for adults only due to space limitations. We thank you for understanding!"

We will also spread it via word of mouth since those that have kids in our group are people we see every weekend and are in the wedding party.

Okay great! Thanks for all the tips!

We're having an adult only as well. I learned yesterday that one of FH's friend was just going ignore what the invite RSVP said and bring his infant twins. Ummmm hell no. Are you kidding me!

I would say "adults only reception to follow" on the invite along with addressing invites appropriately and stating adults only reception on the website

Wow seriously @FutureMrs.Mitchell?? I've heard of people sneaking their kids in before too, that just seems really rude to me. At least you found out about it!

@FutureMrs.Mitchell - That's so rude! We know one of the GM's has made attempts at getting us to invite his kids AND will find an excuse to bring them during that day. His parents and in-laws always watch the kids when this couple wants to have their adults only days but God forbid we would like our wedding day to be just for adults, we're horrible people. Funny thing is, his two kids are literally the only reasons we don't want kids at the wedding. We know 5 kids that would have been invited but his 2 (and their lack of parenting) screws things up. Stand your ground! I will be.

We will address our Save the Dates And Invitations: "Mr and Mrs Smith" and then on a section our website under "Additional Information" I gave a list of babysitters that will come to their house or hotel room and and the bottom of the web page I wrote "We appreciate your understanding". Hoping for the best!

I actually find the cute poems to be annoying. Make the invitations clear and I think adult reception is appropriate.

My invitation said "adult reception to follow"

Thanks everyone! Hopefully I don't have anyone trying to sneak their kids in...though I could totally see my aunt trying to pull a stunt like that. She's been trying to pressure me to have her daughter as a bridesmaid since we reconnected (long story of deep betrayal) and her kids are 2 of the reasons for the adult only reception!

On the invitation just add in the bottom "adult reception to follow"

On my details card, I put adult reception to follow.

We did std's that said... While children are and blessing and a joy, we respectfully ask that this be an adult only ceremony and reception.

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