Adults Only Wedding

Address the invitations only to those invite and in the RSVP, you'll say

"Two seats ave been reserved in your honour"

_____ of two accepting

etc like that.

You name only those who are invited on the envelope.

While I wouldn't put "adult only reception" on the invitation, you could put it on the website.

We hare having adults only as well. Most of our immediate family knows, and we will be addressing our invitations just to those invited, our RSVP cards also say "We have reserved X seats in your honor" and __ of __ attending, so they *hopefully* can't add on extra people, children or not.

I don't when this trend of guests completely ignoring their RSVP's started to happen, but it's rude.

Specify the number of seats, put it on the website, address your invite to the specific people you are inviting and be prepared to nip in the bud any additions.

Just keep in mind, they're the rude ones, not you.

We're having an adults only wedding- we put "Adults Only Ceremony and Reception" on the invite, on the website and even only addresses the envelope to those invited.

Some may call it faux pas but I wanted to make it clear. People got the point. We also have an overwhelming number of RSVP responses - many of our married friends are using it as a date night

Word of mouth works great as well. Let those with little ones know in advance so they can make proper arrangements or decide if they won't attend.

Address the invitations only to the parents. We also included a note on our website about our ceremony and reception being adults only. Sorry if that's considered tacky, but i absolutely didn't want kids there.

Adult Only Reception to follow. I'm seen this plenty of times and have never thought it was rude

I agree with Rosered ... I would not put it on invitation but you could on website. I'd be afraid if you put names on invitation they'd still bring the kids anyways not realizing it was adult only.

We aren't having children (and didn't have any issues with people trying to bring their kids except my sister) and we just addressed the envelope to the adults and put we have reserved 2 (or however many adults in the family) seats in your honor. they should get the picture

It's rude on the invite. Invites are supposed to be welcoming, not punative.

We put the number is seats on the paper RSVP and if they RSVP'd online it only had the names of the people invited. We also had on our website that it was adult only.

I agree it's a little rude on the invite. I made a tactful phone call to each of our friends with kids and was really careful not to offend them. I said our guest list was tight (it is) and the venue isnt that kid friend (lake=drowning hazard). I thought it was not as singling-out as having it in writing for everyone with and without kids to read on the invite. Also my friends' kids behave like rabid animals

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I don't know when this trend started either but it needs to stop. You and hubby are invited, you and hubby attend, not you, hubby and your three children. I would tell original poster to be prepared to get on the phone to tell people they can't bring extra guests. Celia is correct - you are in the right, your guests are rude for attempting to bring extras.

We let people (mostly our moms and a friend) know by word of mouth that children weren't invited, and then when I addressed the envelopes I wrote the adults names and didn't write "and family".

I will definitely be putting it on my website when it's up and running. CLARITY IS IMPORTANT.

We did __ seats reserved in your honor. It worked for except for three guests. Even then one of those would have been a PITA no matter what we put.

Put pictures of liquor, strippers, cigars, and things like that on the invite. I'm sure they'll get the hint.

Add a few swear words too. I'd give you some inspiration, but according to WW cursing offends me so you'll have to come up with your own.

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