Adults only wedding...RSVP with child included!

Call them and explain that you're unable to accommodate children.

Did you really think that you were going to escape this problem? Do you know how old the child in question is? If it is a breastfed infant, you probably need to make some accommodation.

If not:

" I am sorry. There must have been a misunderstanding. The invitation was for you and ___. We are not able to accommodate children. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

Call them and tell them that you made a mistake and that children were not invited (this puts the blame on you, and makes them feel more at ease with the situation). Then follow up with "if this means you won't be able to attend, then we'll miss you"

You don't need to take the blame? Just tell them no kids. It's seriously that easy

Just call them and say that you can't accommodate children. Don't explain or give reasons, just be matter of fact.

"I'm so sorry if there was a misunderstanding but unfortunately we are having an adults only wedding. If you are unable to attend because of this we will miss you greatly."

"I'm sorry we cannot accommodate children. We hope that you can come and celebrate with us, but we certainly understand if you can't.

The end.

No blame.Your the hosts; it's your choice.

@PerfectlyPolin - why would she want to say "unfortunately we are having an adults only wedding"? There's nothing unfortunate about it.

Thank you all for your feedback!

'why would she want to say "unfortunately we are having an adults only wedding"? There's nothing unfortunate about it.'

because it's probably going to be unfortunate for the guest.

@MrsWrs yep. OP did nothing wrong, it's not her fault her guests can't read the inivitation properly.

This is a new epidemic, and we hear about it all of the time of this forum. In my day...yeah, I'm old...guests would never suggest this (at least not in my family).

I'm not an advocate of nursing children attending adult only weddings. In fact, as a mother of an infant, the last place I would have brought my child (aside from a noisy bar) would have been a noisy, bass throbbing, alcohol fueled wedding reception. If I didn't have a sitter, I would have declined -- and as much as it pained me, I did.

For an honor attendant with a nursing child, the rules change. Yes, she should be able to bring her children, but I was in that position once. As a MOH, the mother of the flower girl, I had my inlaws pick her up after the ceremony and photos. If the inlaws weren't around, I would have found a trusted sitter and probably left the reception early. In some instances, my husband stayed home with the babies.

What you have to do is contact the respondent who arbitrarily added her child to the RSVP. If she cannot attend, then she cannot attend. As mothers, we make sacrifices, and this, as I've learned, is one of the least.

Here's a nice little rage inducing article about the issue...'If you want me to come to your child free wedding, you should offer a babysitter'

'Why are we as parents expected to carry the financial burden of hiring someone to look after our children so that the bride and groom can have a kid free event?'

Um because they're your fucking kids!

http://www.mamamia.com.au/child-free-wedding/?redirect=tm

I think nursing babies are a bit of an exception. This is because (due to ex-H business expectations), I attended a wedding away from my 2 month old. I was pumping milk in the parking lot and throwing it away. Out the window. Elsewhere, my baby was refusing to take any nourishment other than from me. So yeah, in retrospect I would have stayed home with my baby. In any case, I wouldn't have been offended.

I'd honestly never heard of this before! I'd probably be the dumbass to reply and include my child not meaning to be disrespectful, but because I honestly had no idea.

At last count, I had about 20-25 kids in the guest list. A bit daunting for sure.

While I never knew it was a thing, I absolutely wouldn't be offended if the bride called to let me know it's adults only. As PP said, let her know it's for adults only. Hopefully she'll be able to come celebrate your day!

@NatalieJ, I couldn't possibly ask someone else to pay for my sitter. Good god that's ridiculous!

ETA: words.

If any parents want to judge my decisions, he's an ex for a reason.

Oh. My. Damn. I have seen it all, now. (In reference to that incredibly entitled blog post.) I have spent a lot of time in deference to people with children (being stuck with shitty work shifts, being the one who gets to work mandatory overtime, or covering because so and so had to leave early because of a kid with a fever.) I'll be damned if anyone thinks I'm doing it on my wedding day. My FG and a possible nursing infant (same parents, about to start trying for #2.) And I'm not paying for their child care. They would never ask me to. Ugh. Sorry, that article hit something real deep. *LOL*