Adults only wedding questions

The only exception to the adult wedding only is the flower girl/ring bearer. So I think you should be fine and people would understand the flower girl/niece being there.

We're doing the same thing. Adults-only wedding (older than 14) except for the ring bearer (who is 8) and FH's sister (who is 12). And FH's niece who will be 9 months bc we didn't have a choice.

In other words, what you're doing is fine and quite normal. Ignore his mother (in a respectful manner of course)

We are doing the same. The only children will be our 5 yr old grandson (the ring bearer) and 4 yr old nephew (my FH's sister's son) who is my BM. We discussed that we consider making an exception for one of my FHs cousins, she has 2 middle aged kids and the whole family was invited to the wedding (her parents and siblings) so if they cannot arrange childcare for the evening with friends, the kids would need to come. She has already rsvp'd for her and her husband via the wedding website's S-T-D, and the kids did not come up, so we presumed that they made some arrangements.. Otherwise, that's it.

I agree with PPs, that what you are doing is completely normal. Most adult-only weddings make exceptions for kids in the wedding party (flower girl/ring bearer). This is the norm

This is more common than you think.

You could include kids for the ceremony, but reserve the reception for adults. I've heard of people doing that. Maybe budge to provide childcare for guests during the reception?

Children in the wedding are generally an exception. We had an adults only wedding, but we had 2 flower girls (5 & 7), an usher (15), and a ring bearer (2).

We are having adult only for our weddings. the only kids that are attending our wedding are the kids that are in the wedding party. That is the exception to the rule. If you are having a flower girl and a ring bearer that is fine. it is normal.

It is your day and if people can't accept it then that's their issue. I've had to set some folks straight about my adult only reception.

I’ve been to an adults only wedding that still did flower girls and a ring bearer!

We are doing adults only with the exception of our 2 junior bridal party members and ring bearer. We also made an exception for our bridal party members who live out of state. My FH's family has 20+ kids on his dads side alone and we just can't afford that many kids to attend.