Adults only reception

Our entire wedding is adults only. It's not rude, it's a preference. And, I've found, a welcome one because many parents don't get many date nights to converse with other adults. Make it a bold statement or they won't get the hint.

Do not mention "adults only" anywhere. It IS considered rude.

Addressing invitations to only those invited like you mentioned is fine and so is "reserving ___ seats in your honor"

I put adult only reception on my website. IDGAF

^^ agreed ....And if they add children to their RSVP you're just going to have to make a call and explain kids are not invited polite as possible.

I went to a wedding last fall, the invite itself did say "adults only" and I didn't find it rude. But I also have no kids, so I didn't care one way or the other. I would think it's not *as* bad to put it on the website, but possibly not everyone will go to the website...

Most of my guests, outside of immediate family, didn't look at our website. So either way, you may have to make some phone calls.

It is not rude. You reserve the right to not have children their and I have 3 kid's and I would understand. I'm not pay 89.00 a plate for a child and the kid's will more than likely waste the food

I don't think it's rude to put on your website at all!

I put "adult reception" on my website. The invitations were addressed to John Doe and Jane Doe, very specifically. Everyone seemed to get the message.

Don't put it on the invitation or the website. Address the invitations to the adults only. Then spread by word-of-mouth (we enlisted FH's gossipy aunt) to spread the word that it's an adult event. On the website FAQ section, just put a note that it's an intimate event. People will get the hint.

Our website FAQ: Due to the small wedding venue and the nature of Sin City, we are inviting our close family members and friends for a more intimate event. Thank you for your understanding. (We're having a DW in Las Vegas)

Don't put it on anything. Invite the specific people you want to show up and be prepared to tell anyone who responds with kids that you cannot accommodate them.

I put it on my invites. "Etiquette" is sometimes not one-size-fits-all, and the adults-only receptions showing up on invites Is pretty common nowadays. The last 4 wedding invitations, including my "classiest" friend (he's an attorney and very into Chicago's social scene) did the same. We both have expensive meals and venues and *despite addressing the invites to specifically who is invited,* I had people texting me photos of the clothes they wanted their 4 kids to wear to the wedding, and I still had to repeat "no kids unless they're in the wedding." So far, I'm glad I put that on the invitation because sometime people DO need a huge glaring message or they will not understand. My mom has 6 siblings and they all have kids and grandkids. I can't accommodate 30 kids, and I was up-front about it. Maybe it's not right according to etiquette, but neither is showing up to a drinking party with toddlers when the invitation was only addressed to you and your SO, which I guarantee will happen unless you're a jerk about it. Sometimes etiquette needs to be customized to your needs. It's your money, your wedding, your night. Do what YOU want, don't worry so much about guests being mad. It's not up to you to customize your wedding to their preferences. If it's not the kids thing that ruffles feathers, it'll be something else, I promise. You will never please everyone, so do what makes your process easiest.

It’s not rude and tacky, even on the invite. My family always had adult only reception and puts it on the invite so parents can plan accordingly