Adults Only Reception...how to spell it out?

It is kind of tacky on the invite. You can make a mention towards it on an insert card, as well as on the wedding website.

I don't even like the _ of _ cuz it sounds like you don't trust your guests to know what to do. But that's not me, and its considered acceptable.

Its pretty clear, whomever is on the invite, is who is invited. Not a lot of wiggle room there. You just need to have guts to call someone and say NO when they add other people.

I'm glad to see this forum as I'm running into the same situation and it has been driving me crazy.

When we started the planning we agreed on the no children policy. But my mom keep saying that everyone will bring their kids no matter what. So, we are getting ready to send the invitations and we are going with the filling the number of people the party approach on the rsvp. I'm sure that will not be enough and we are thinking about adding a business card with a note saying something along the lines of: "Although we would like to invite every friend and family, unfortunately space is limited. Any requests for extra seats/guests will only be given if there is available space on a first come first serve basis after the rsvp deadline." We are still working on the language, want to sound nice but firm, but you get the idea. Would this be going to far???? One day I think it's the perfect solution, the next I think everyone will be mad at us and not attend the wedding. Sigh.

Our reception venue is small and I'm soooo afraid people will simply show up without properly rsvp or bring all their kids.

Mine is on my insert card and also mentioned a couple times on the website. I just stated that due to the location we ask that all guests be 21 and up :-) if people complain, I'll tell em it's a policy at the brewery...suckaaaasss!! How you gonna respond back to that!?

We are writing out the name of each adult invited on the inner envelope of the invite, and we also mention it on our website (although I'm not sure how many people will actually log on and read over it). We might also pre-fill the # of seats on the RSVP cards. I'm sure we will still have people respond that they are bringing their kids, but we will just deal with that when the time comes.

No one will bring their kids if it's clear that their kids are not welcome. Cristi and Ryan and Shannon have it right.

Stand your ground, be prepared to say, " We have made the decision not to include children.

2014AD; don't go into that much detail in the invite. Invite who you are going to invite, make it impossible for them to add others, and if they cross out numbers and add people, have a speech all ready.

I honestly don't get this trend of just bringing whoever you feel like bringing whether they're invited or not.....sigh....

You should write the names of the people invited on the invitations. That is all. Done. I think it's rude to write the # of seats on the RSVP card, but WW disagrees with me. Alas.

We wrote out the names of the invited on the RSVP card and had a "___ seats have been reserved in your honor" line. No inner/outer envelope or inserts for us because we chose all-in-ones for environmental reasons.

On our response cards, we wrote the names of the invited guest and we also put "Adults Only" at the bottom of the response card.

I still had someone ask me if they can bring their child (which I did not understand). We mailed out some invitations last week and I had someone ask if they could bring a plus one (invite was clearly sent to her)... Hopefully no one cross out names and/or write in additional names.

I really like your wording, Wendy. FH and I were trying to figure out the same thing for our wedding, so I'll probably see what he thinks of this.

Wendy...I LOVE your wording...I will definitely be using it! Thank you!

I would write on one of the inserts "Respectfully, an adult occasion" That might do it nicely for you.

I also used "

We have reserved ____ seats in your honor (you fill in this number)"

I also put ADULT Only on the reception insert card

Sigh. Good point Celia.

I don't get it either.

Great suggestions ladies!

There's always the power of Facebook I've seen invitations that state "adult reception"...Idk, I might still throw it on the RSVP cards just because with some people you have to be VERY clear about your wishes.