Adult only wedding

Our wedding is basically adult only - the youngest will be my future step son (10) - Our invitations that included "adult" children were labeled Mr & Mrs John Smith and Family while others were labeled Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith - I believe this set the tone of our expectations. So far no one has said anything.

My fiance and I are planning an adult only wedding (with the exception of three kids in the wedding party). We are only addressing invitations to the adults ("Mr. & Mrs. Smith" instead of "The Smith Family"). So far, we haven't had an issue, but we figured that if anyone RSVPs for their child, we can reach out and let them know that it's adults only at that time.

We had an adult only wedding except for those in the bridal party. We addressed the invitations to who we were specifically inviting. We also put that we only reserved x number of seats. One our wedding wedding under FAQ we had a question about if child could attending. We kindly said that while we love everyone's child that we would like a child free wedding. One of the groomsmen brought his six month old daughter even though she wasn't invited. I will say when you start making exceptions like you mentioned it will start upsetting people.

Our wedding was adults only except our three nieces, two of which were in the wedding and the third was an infant. We addressed invitations to those invited, specified on the RSVPs how many seats were reserved for each household, and mentioned children in our FAQ. I agree with PPs, making exceptions for some is going to upset people more than an adults only wedding.

We had an adult-only wedding with the exception of our two flower girls, since they were in the wedding. Our wedding was a formal evening affair and we didn't feel it was the appropriate place for kids. We never really addressed the matter specifically with guests...we simply addressed the invitations by name to those invited, and guests had to select their meal when RSVP-ing. It was pretty clear who was invited and who wasn't invited due to our meal-selection system with the RSVPs. We didn't make any exceptions besides the flower girls, even for guests who had to travel from out of town (granted, we didn't have anyone coming from a different country). We did get a fair number of declines from people who were unable to travel due to their kids, but that is simply the price you have to pay when having an adult-only wedding. It was well worth it in my opinion.

My FH and I were invited to a wedding last year that was adult only and it was no issue. The invite was addressed to us by name, not “The Woodward Family” and they had a FAQs page on their wedding website that said the requested no kids. Also, when we rsvpd, only our names were listed. Honestly, it was kind of nice to have an adult evening because if we had the kids all my attention would have been on them the whole time. I know not everyone has family or friends that can or are willing to help out with babysitting, but you said you understand some people may decline so I think it’s fine.

I think adult only weddings are very common and almost expected, and people won't get offended that they can't bring their child. We set our age cap at 18 (mainly to keep guest count down!) and no one has been upset by that. We only made exceptions for immediate family (I have 7 and 8 year old sisters, fiance has 3 and 4 year old nephews).

Our wedding will be adults only with the exception of my two nieces who are flower girls. We've made it clear from the start that kids are not invited.

We've told people in-person/text messages what our plans were and that we are keeping it adults only. Most have received it very well. When we sent out our Save the Dates and New Date cards, the envelope was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. not 'Smith Family'.

The invitations will be sent the same way.

On our website, under the FAQ, we put "Can I bring my children? We love ALL of your children, however, we have decided to make this an adults-only celebration. We hope you understand!"

We just heard from FH best friend that his parents likely won't come because they will have to watch the kids. It will be hard for some who don't have a regular babysitter or family in town help out but we are sticking to our plan.

When sending my invitations I set an amount of people that could come with that way when they rsvpd they would know who all was allowed.

Im not doing an adult only wedding. If my guests decide to leave their kids with babysitter thats fine im leaving that up to them.

We are planning an adult-only wedding (originally May 16, but now moving forward with our rescheduled October 9 date). Besides noting it on the website for when people received their STDs in the fall, we had a small line on the RSVP card saying Adults Only (18+). Though this is not necessarily proper etiquette according to some sites, we wanted to be as straightforward as possible, even though we specified only the adults when addressing. We did get some reaction from a couple relatives about it, and I respected if they declined for that reason. But I stand by the decision even more now with COVID-19, when we need to watch our guest count and want to avoid any scenarios that could make it hard to social distance.

View Quoted Comment I think I will also put adult only celebration on the invitations to be more straight forward as well! I see others placed it under their FAQ if they have a website which is also a good idea! And yes, if anyone cannot/doesn’t come due it this I will totally understand! Thank you for your input!

Congrats to you!! I addressed my invitations to the people who were invited. If Mr. & Mrs. Smith have 4 kids but I didn’t want the children to attend, I just put “Mr. & Mrs. Smith” on the invitation. I believe I’ve seen an invitation that said it was adults only or one that said “childcare not provided”. I can’t remember to be honest (sorry!). I’m sure there is a way you can say it nicely.

Put only who is invited on the invite. Please do not say "Child Free" or any verbage like that as it is considered tacky to say who is NOT invited. Some people may get butt hurt over not having their kids there. Oh well. "Sorry we will miss you!! See you at Thanksgiving!" Good Luck!

My brother did this. They included it (tastefully) in the FAQ section of their website, had it spread by word of mouth, and addressed the invitations to the parents only. You could also put the number of “seats reserved” on the RSVP card if you’re having them. For example, you could put “two seats have been reserved in your honor” so they know it’s just the adults and not the whole family.

Our wedding was adult only. Our wedding website stated such, we addressed our save the dates and invites specifically to who was invited, and our online RSVP's only allowed who was invited to RSVP.

We had no backlash from this. Everyone who had kids got a sitter, came to the wedding, and enjoyed their child free evening!