Due to a number of various reasons my fiancé and I chose our wedding to be adult only. Cost was a big issue, and the space didn’t seem appropriate for children. It’s at a winery with a lot of open water (no railings) and open flames in different areas for ambiance. At over $100 per person I didn’t feel like kids appreciate weddings enough anyway to really enjoy being there.
Four of my cousins are not attending because of the no children issue. The issue I’m having with it is that I sent out an email to explain everything very early on, and offered to help find sitters for the ceremony and reception (which is 5-10pm), and said kids were welcome for any of the rest of it, and that I would love to see them.
My cousins never responded to the email, or to my RSVPs, or to my texts/Facebook messages to confirm whether they were coming or not. I had to find out from their mothers (my aunts) that they weren’t coming, and that I had hurt their feelings with the no kids thing. They also threw in that most of them couldn’t afford to fly over from several states away anyway, so to me I wonder why it matters that their kids can’t come if they couldn’t afford to come over anyway?
I’m frustrated about it, and hurt too, because I feel like I’ve made all the effort I can to be accommodating, but still feel like I’m being portrayed as the bad guy.
How should I feel about this?
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