Adult only reception - forgot to put on invitations!!

I don’t think you’re supposed to put it on the invites. We just have it on our website. I think the standard way to do it is to have the RSVP card say the number of seats reserved for them ( so you’d include only adults in that count).

It's not polite to put who isnt invited (ie no kids) on the invite anyways so you didn't make a mistake! Simply address the invites just to the people who are invited (ie Mr. and Mrs. Smith instead of The Smith Family) and if someone rsvps with kids simply call them and clarify that the invite was only for those it was addressed to.

So it’s actually considered really rude to put “adult reception only” on your invite so I personally think you didn’t make a mistake and you’re better off this way. You could put this on your wedding website but your invite is only supposed to reflect who is invited and not who isn’t invited. You could certainly fill in the names of those who are invited but I would caution that as you may have couples where only one of the two can attend and having them pre filled in that case can cause issues. My question to you would be how did you address your invites? If it was to both guests invited you’re probably going to be ok. If it was to one party plus guest you may have some issues. You could wait and see if anyone RSVPs for a child guest and reach out to them directly.

View Quoted Comment Oh phew!! Okay that makes me feel better, thank you! And I do have how many attending on there so I’ll do exactly that and include that number. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! And the last thing I want to do is be rude, so I appreciate that! Great advice thank you

View Quoted Comment Great advice/questions, thank you!! The last thing I want to do is be rude, I’m not that type of person and want to be as polite as possible thankfully I have not addressed any of the invites yet. The only reason I started this is someone else had put a phrase or something on their invites and I automatically thought I did something wrong. My invites are super plain and generic. I plan on addressing it to just the adults (in most cases couple) and maybe leave the rsvp blank and let them handle that. Common theme here is to wait if they reach out with kids so I can handle those inquiries. But awesome, great advice thank you again!

I put on my invitations adult only reception, so I won’t have to get 10000 extra people rsvping to the wedding. But we all have our own take on what is rude and isn’t rude right?

You can put on your wedding website, or let people know when the rsvp that kids are not invited.

For me, having an open bar helps, no one really wants their kids there anyways.

I had an adults only wedding and didn't put it on the invitations.

As long as you addressed them properly - to specifically the adults and didn't include the children - you should be ok.

If you haven't sealed your envelopes yet you could also do what I did to really make sure people got the point without specifically saying "don't bring your kids"

I got some really nice gold and white string that went with my invite theme and tied the invitation suite together with a nice bow and a tag that specifically said the adults' first names. Seeing "Jody and Chris" when they open it points out even further that the kiddos aren't invited.

You’re fine without it. If you put “__seats reserved in your honor” in the rsvp cards and address the envelopes to “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” and not “The Smith Family” your guests should know who is invited!