Addressing wedding invitations and RVSPs

If it's a married couple - Mr. & Mrs. Smith

If It's someone in a Relationship - Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe

If it's someone with a Guest - Mr. John Smith or Ms. Jane Doe and Guest

If it's a family- The Smith Family

Don't forget anyone in a house hold that is over 18 gets their own invite (if invited)

I'm not. It sounds so stuffy to me. We're having a small, more laid back wedding, so it's fine by me!

We are having a very informal wedding and all family members are invited and everyone gets a plus one if they are old enough to have one.

You don't need to use titles if you don't want to, especially if the wedding is not formal. First and last names are fine.

You don't need inner envelopes.

With respect to using "The Smith Family" - that's totally appropriate as long as everyone in that household is actually invited.

For our older guests we did Mr and Mrs Smith, but for people our age we just went more casual.

You don't have to go super formal, we aren't either

We are using inner envelopes because I've always liked the idea of naming the specific persons invited. But then, that's how it was always done when I was growing up. If I receive an invitation in only one envelope, I sure don't clutch my pearls and swoon, I just figure it's their preference. I don't think the "rules" are as rigid today, so do your own thing!

The inner envelope helps you to list specifically who exactly is invited. Listing each name on the outside envelope could be done but would take up space. I really recommend the inner envelope for that reason. With that said I think you could use more modern ways of addressing couples on the outer envelope. Such as: John and Sally Smith.

No inner envelopes!!!! I am the Lorax and I speak for the trees!

Our outer, and only, envelopes will have specific people with no Mr or mrs or what-have-yous

We also did ours as "John and Jane Smith" rather than "Mr. and Mrs. Smith." Unmarried couples were addressed as "John Smith and Jane Jones."

Ditch the inner envelope and use the money for something else.

Question. We also are having a very informal wedding and I loath inner envelopes. Our invites are one-sided. Would it be okay to list the names on the blank side of the invites?

@almost_MLF I personally think that would be fine! I'm assuming you mean address the outside of the envelope, and on the blank side of the invitation put the names of everyone? Why not!?

I really appreciate everyone's responses!! I definitely think we are just going to address them as we feel fits the family! We are sending out STD's in June, so it should be a nice trial run of how everything will be addressed!

Are a lot of people using the WW website RSVP? We were thinking about putting a phone number as a back up way to RSVP if they can't figure out the website.

How are you handling everyone's plus one's on the website? I like the idea that someone said above with putting John's Guest under the household, but I think the only way they would see that person's name is if they only searched by their last name. Maybe I could put in the caption to only search by last name? Or put in the caption that if you plan on bringing a guest please make note of that under 'leave message'? Which would be better?

No formality here. Inner envelopes? Adds weight and bulk- not using them. I have put "Mike and Sarah Smith" or "Hartt Family" or "Tira and guest"... FH and I aren't formal people, so why would we represent ourselves that way? We want fun and light hearted, so we are addressing things more casually.

I'm doing the same as you, D&D. No inner envelope, RSVP using WW on line. I've put in my website that if someone has to add a plus one (I've already added the dates who I know would be there, assuming a yes) to call us. We don't have too many single folks, though, being an older couple.

Another on team informal here. I also find Mr. and Mrs. to be very stuffy, when we're addressing family members and close friends. FH's grandmother is the only Mrs. on my list. And since I'm including children, I am addressing to "The Smith Family" when it's appropriate. Not really stressing that anyone will try to bring their dog, LOL.

I think if you're having a formal wedding, you could consider doing it the traditional way (see Becoming a Mrs comment). But if you're not going formal, I wouldn't worry about inner envelopes or figuring out who prefers Ms. and who prefers Mrs.

ETA: I considered using online RSVPs. But I realized that I would miss the excitement of getting back the paper cards in the mail. I think filling out the RSVP card will be fun for FH's grandmother and the families with kids. It was in the budget, so I decided to go paper for RSVPs.

I'm glad you posted this. I've stressed about having to do it the "old fashioned" way. We are laid back, and while having a really nice wedding, we still want to do whats comfortable to us and that's more causal. I didn't want to be all "Sir and Madam Higgonbottoms the third" lol

We addressed ours more laid back. I say do what works for you

We are using two envelopes - cause I like it... simply a matter of preference on this. I am a bit traditional in some ways but not as formal- so I will address them as I see fit.

Outside envelope: Mr & Mrs. Smith - Inside: Jane, Joe & Shmoe.

The RSVP of WW is working out fine.... Once someone types in their name- the whole household comes up and they have an option to RSVP for everyone in their household. So if you add a household names Mr. Smith and in it you have listed John Smith and John Smith Guest - when John smith enters his name he will have the household name show up and then click to confirm button - from there he will also have the option to confirm for himself and his guest. - anyone in that household.