Addressing STD and invitation with nickname

I used less formal for the STDs, if it was a name they went by all the time (Like shortening William to Bill). But our invite labels were addressed to "Mr and Mrs Smith" or Mr. Smith and Guest. People can deal with it.

I personally would not (just me however). We call my aunt Honey; I addressed her as Sylvia ****. I also prefer Kim, but I addressed mine as Kimberley. Again, my opinion.

I used a nickname for my friend's husband on a STD, because I honestly do not know his real name. Since he uses his nickname all the time, I figured it was okay. I'm still not sure what I'll write on the invitation, I might have to call my friend and ask her.

@Kassy a lot of my childhood friends, to this day, don't know what my aunts legal name. Lol

Do whatever you think! You know your guests the best. I would go with Barb & Ernie but that is just me. I'm pretty sure I put "Nana" on my grandmas STD and will for the invite too.

I would go nick name for the STD and then look for feedback for the invite. I only say this because of a situation that happened to me:

FH has an old friend named "Johnny". Like any normal person, I thought Johnny was just a nick name and that his REAL name was Johnathan....because why would anyone lengthen John to Johnny, right? When he and his wife got their STD, I got a bitchy message from his wife stating that "My husbands name is not Johnathan, it's Johnny". So I guess "Johnny" is actually his real name, not a nick name, and she was super pissed about it.

Stupid. Go with the nickname at first.

I think it's fine to use nicknames that are shortened versions of real names and they get used all the time. I have an uncle named Sidney, but I think if I addressed his invite like that he wouldn't come just based on that ha ha. If their nickname was something random though, I wouldn't do it.

We didn't do STDs, but did formal names for invitations and less formal/nicknames for thank yous.

Thanks all!

I have always called my uncle Ed not Edward, or my aunt Jacquie not Jacqueline.

I think some people prefer their nickname. It is one of those, know your audience kind of things.

I work at a hospital and typically refer to doctors as Dr Smith or whatever as a respect thing. Some of them will really stress that they prefer to be called by their first name. I find it really hard to not call them Dr 'Last Name'.

If its what you usually address them by, then nicknames are perfectly fine. our save the dates and wedding invitations will be addressed to peoples nicknames.