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Addressing save the dates and invites to families?

Aimee, on December 13, 2012 at 6:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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I would like to use the same formal address format for my save the dates and invitations. I will NOT be using a second inner envelope for the invitation. I have two questions...

1) How do I address a married couple with only one child?

a. Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

Child's fist name

b. Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Child's first name

c. Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Family

d. The Doe Family

2) A tricky question of etiquette...We are having a destination wedding, which we don't expect many will be able to attend. We are not very close to my dad's family. My parents think we should only send invites to aunts and uncles on my dads side plus add "and family" at the end to imply that my cousins are invited. Most of my cousins are grown up and living on their own or have their own families started. I know proper etiquette says you should send them to each person older than 18 or those that are married, but is this an exception? Any better suggestions?

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Latest activity by Sarah D., on December 16, 2012 at 10:35 PM

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Hayley C™ · on December 13, 2012 at 8:06 PM
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http://www.wedalert.com/content/articles/address_invitations.asp
How to Address your envelopes - Print this out as a reference while addressing your invites.

Specify the names of children under 18 years old on the outer envelope when they are invited along with their parents. Write: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith on the first line, and Mr. Dylan Smith and Miss Tara Smith on the next line. Write the names of children from the eldest to the youngest. Children older than18 years old should be given a separate invitation. If the whole family is invited, addressing the envelope as "The John Smith Family" is acceptable. So, up to you.

If you want to invite the cousins they should get their own invitation. Especially because you said they have moved out and have started th
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L · on December 16, 2012 at 10:28 PM
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If your cousins are close, you can send one invite to a responsible one who will share with the other cousins. Also scan and email to the other cousins or make a nice website with all wedding info on theknot.com with your invite on their. Many people are taking this route now in order to save $$ on invites.
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Sarah D. · on December 16, 2012 at 10:35 PM
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We decided individually for them... like FH has cousins who "technically" live on their own (unmarried, in school, etc) but who are at their parents house on the weekend.. we sent one invitation to the family there because I know FH's aunt/uncle will obviously tell them and we are able to keep our costs lower and spend more elsewhere like food and entertainment. If we sent an invitation to each indiviadual over-18 guest, it would almost double our invitation count and we decided to not do that since all of them see their parents regularly and can get the info from them..

*side note- our wedding is very casual, so this was perfectly acceptable to everyone, however if it was a formal affair, we would probably follow more "ettiquette"
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