Addressing same sex invites

Mr. John Doe & (insert boyfriends name here)

for the aunts Mrs. Jane Doe & Mrs. (Insert her name here)

I'm glad I'm changing my last name to my fw's last name so this won't be a question later on..lol

LOL. It would make things easier, but since this is the first time getting married, I don't know what hoops they have to jump through to do it. And I live in Texas, as do they, where their marriage isn't even recognized (I don't think). It sucks that they have to go through life with the prejudices that they do. But I am glad that they are happy.

I addressed my same sex couples as Angie suggested to, same-sex marriage is still illegal in Florida, but if they were basically married or I felt like they would be if it were legal then I gave them the "&" in between their names that is usually reserved for married couples, so I say just address them exactly as you would if they were married and just happened to have different last names (it happens!)

I did what the above ladies said. "Mr. John Doe & Mr. John Doe". Easy peasy!

Mine were super casual so I addressed mine as "John Doe & John Smith."

Some people also say if they are a couple, but not married then each name goes on 2 different lines.

ex:

John Smith

John Doe

(address)

You can also just do John Smith & Guest

@Sabrina - if the men are in a LTR, beyond 'boyfriend' stage, listing "Guest" could be construed as an insult or lack of acceptance of his relationship, so I'd be cautious with that...

I'd address it "Mr. David Smith & Mr. Matthew Jones", which is how I also address hetero couples who are living together or in a LTR.

Yep, Mr. John Doe & Mr. John Smith for the BM and his bf.

I'd address the aunts' just like a hetero married couple with different last names. I don't think it matters if their marriage is legally recognized, they see themselves as married.

Agree with those above, when I addressed mine to my roomate from college it was

Ms. Jane Doe & gf's name.

She didn't seem to have a problem with it at all.

As others have said, "Mr. First Name Last Name & Mr. First Name Last Name"

I addressed my cousin and her wife as Mrs. Cousin First Name Last Name and Mrs. Cousin's Wife First Name Last Name. "Mrs. & Mrs. Cousin First Name Last Name" sounded kind of redundant.

What everyone else said, also "and family" for the kids

To be honest, I wasn't sure how to do this either when i was addressing our invitations. A very close friend of mine is in a same sex marriage. I wasnt sure if i should have put Mr. and Mr. Doe or what-so I just asked him. He appreciated the thought behind it and said Mr. and Mr. was perfect. I guess what I'm getting at-are you close enough to them to just ask instead of guessing?

@RN Bride: My fw and I have to go to another state also to get married. As of now it is not recognized in the state I live in! I was born in raised in TX by the way! I have a feeling it will be legalized here by the time we get married, but we are not taking any chances! The thing is, my fw works for the federal government so everything WILL be legal through her work! I will be able to get on benefits through her work. However, I will LOSE a LOT of things when we get married. We have been together for 7 years! My dad mentioned something like "I know why... insurance purposes...." UGHHH! I will lose my FREE health insurance... I'll lose my disability, I'll lose so much more financially than I would gain! I will gain a new last name, a commitment, and recognition through her work! Most importantly I will gain the status "spouse" so I can see her in the hospital if she was dying! Long story.. still pissed.. the hospital here doesn't consider us immediate family so when only "immediate" family can go in.... we are denied! And YES, this has happened to us!

This is how I addressed the invite I sent to my sister and her wife:

The Mesdames Jane and Susan Smith (on the outer envelope)

Mesdames Jane and Susan Smith (inner envelope)

@Angie I know they've been out in the same position. One of them got really sick and ended up in life support in an ICU. While she was sick they did let her wife back but she couldn't make any legal decisions because they aren't "legally" married in Texas. This was in April of 2013 that I met them. The hospital had to go to her son for all decisions. Which he than ran busy her wife.

As for the BM, he's pretty nonchalant about most things and was surprised I was even sending him an invite. He said "I know I gotta be there."

Thank ya'll for your help.