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Addressing invitations

N, on December 23, 2019 at 5:16 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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How should invitations be addressed? “Mr & Mrs (husband’s name) Last” if married? Or “First/last & first/last”?

What about single adults? “First/last & Guest” or leave the guest for RSVP card? We’re having a DW so I want to make clear everyone has a plus one.
Also our RSVPs have a line to list the adults and children attending (RSVPs are in postcard format). But we’d like to make it clear on the invitations the named individuals invited (we’ve had some aunts thinking their adult children are automatically invited). So is it rude to go ahead and pre-fill out the RSVP with the names were intending to invite and allow them to select attending or not?

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Latest activity by Emily, on December 24, 2019 at 12:32 AM

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Caytlyn · on December 23, 2019 at 5:25 PM
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Traditionally, married couples are addressed as Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith.

Address the invitation to Joe Smith and Guest.

Writing the names in yourself isn't going to work. What if you list Susie Smith and Joe Smith as the names, but only Susie can attend? She will mark one accepts and one declines, but you'll have no idea which is which since you already filled out the names. A better alternative is addressing the invitations specifically to who is invinted, then put a line on the RSVP card that says "we have reserved __ seats in your honor." Fill the number in so they know exactly how many are invited.
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Courtney · on December 23, 2019 at 5:26 PM
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Our were fairly informal, this conveys to your guests what to expect. We addressed them:
John Doe
John Doe & Jane Smith
John & Jane Doe
Doe Family
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Gen · on December 23, 2019 at 5:41 PM
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I really am not a fan of the Mr and Mrs (husbands name) last name. When I got married I didn’t give up my first name too lol. I mean, it doesn’t upset me THAT much, but it just rubs me the wrong way.

The way I did was Mr (husbands name) and Mrs (wife’s name) last name. So like, “Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith”
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Emily · on December 24, 2019 at 12:32 AM
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Ours were informal too!

John DoeJohn Doe plus oneJohn Doe and Jane SmithJohn and Jane DoeJohn and Jane Doe + family John Doe and Jane Smith + family

Like I said, very informal! However, none of my family and friends care😬
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