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Addressing invitations???

Sav, on August 18, 2021 at 6:39 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

I know formally when sending out wedding invites and you are extending a plus one you are supposed to address the envelope to Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. Would it really be that big of a deal if I did not do that? Our RSVP cards have a place where I specify how many seats are reserved. So it it fairly clear how many people are invited. For example the envelope would say Ms. Jane Doe, and the RSVP card says "we have reserved 2 seats in your honor". Is that okay? Or will people be confused?


Latest activity by Michelle, on August 18, 2021 at 4:19 PM
  • AJ
    Super October 2022
    AJ ·
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    I think people would be confused, you should address the envelop so that people really know they are getting a plus one. If you don't address the envelop with + guest and put reserved 2 seats they might think its a mistake

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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I agree that this would probably confuse people. I know I would be.
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    You will probably run into people thinking they don’t get a plus one. So they may ask you (which many consider rude) or decline.
    I’d write “and guest.”
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    People take their cue on who is invited based on how the invitation is addressed. I would be very clear that a Guest is included in the address.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper Online ·
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    That would confuse me.
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  • S
    Expert September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    As a guest, I would be confused. What is the reason you want to omit the "and guest" portion? It doesn't cost more to add it on.

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  • Jasmine E.
    Rockstar May 2022
    Jasmine E. ·
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    Most formal invites have an outer and inner envelope. So I guess you could put "Mr. John Doe" on the outer one, then "Mr. John Doe and Guest" on the inner one.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Unless you clearly indicate it on the envelope, guests will be confused by the number of seats allowed if you only address people individually.
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