Addressing Invitations to Groom's children

I'd say definitely an invite for the two who live out of the house together (Mr. XX1 and Mr. XX2). But do the four living with him really need an envelope invite? Would your fiancé mail it to his own house? I'd almost argue you wouldn't need a physical invite for those four and that word of mouth for the children of the groom who still live with him is fine

View Quoted Comment I completely agree, the children living at home would not need a physical invite. If they would like one for a keepsake, you can hand it to them; otherwise, I would just skip it. For the two boys living outside the home, I would address and send a separate invitation to each of them. If they are in a relationship, you should include their significant other on the envelope. If they are not in a relationship, they should be extended a plus one (so the envelope will be addressed to son’s name and guest).

Why not give the ones living at a physical invitation? They still need the information and it’s proper and polite to send them individually regardless if they live at home or across the country. Some people may like keepsakes too.


You address the envelopes according to formality of the wedding. For a casual or semi formal/cocktail wedding, skip the titles (Mr, Mrs, Miss, etc). For formal or black tie, you list titles.

I think we'll send the ones out of the house their invite and one for the ones in the house, that way they can also learn about formality and protocol. Thank you so much for your input!!!

View Quoted Comment These are the groom’s own children. I’d mail separately to each of the adult children who live together, hand one to the adult living at home and save a few extra for the younger children in case they want one someday.


It’s not true that titles on invitations are reserved for formal or black tie affairs.

We have a similar situation but with siblings. Every couple is getting their own initiation. It was the most fair and unambiguous plan we could think of.