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Just Said Yes December 2022

Addressing Invitations to Doctors

Liz, on October 19, 2021 at 9:54 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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I have two very close friends (one is my MOH) who go by Dr. Maiden Name in their professions and Mrs. Married Name socially. One is a dentist and one is a Ph.D. How would I address them on the invitation? Is it Mr. and Mrs. Married Name because this is a social invite or Dr. Maiden Name and Mr. Husband? Mr. Husband and Dr. Married Name?
Every website I found googling said something different.

Looking to do this with the utmost formality because that's fun for me.

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Latest activity by Michelle, on October 20, 2021 at 1:37 PM

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Hannah · on October 19, 2021 at 10:01 PM
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Since they're such close friends, I would just ask them directly what they prefer.
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Jasmine S. · on October 19, 2021 at 10:07 PM
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I believe standard etiquette is to use professional titles, but as said above, it seems like you're close enough with them that you could just ask.
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Barbara · on October 19, 2021 at 10:14 PM
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I have a cousin who is a vet and is married to a vet. His wife kept her maiden name, so they're both doctors, but different last names. I'm planning on doing "Dr. FirstName X and Dr. FirstName Y" for their invitation. Not sure if it's correct, but that's how I generally address their holiday cards!
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Michelle · on October 19, 2021 at 11:01 PM
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Professional titles are reserved for work functions only. A wedding invitation is a social event so you use their social names and titles.
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MOB So Cal · on October 20, 2021 at 9:02 AM
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I agree with this, especially since you've said they use their husbands' names socially. A wedding is a social occasion.
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Michelle · on October 20, 2021 at 1:37 PM
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I say it's a know-your crowd thing. In my circle, formality is straightforward and so envelopes should include "Engr. or Captain" (esp if older). In your example, I would use "Doctor maiden name" (dentist) and "Dr. maiden name" (PhD). But, really it's best to ask them. Some prefer to be addressed as Mr. and Mrs. partner's name.
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