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Addressing Envelopes

EGD, on July 8, 2021 at 10:13 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
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I ordered my STD's (a bit early but magnet street was having a 75% off sale so I got them for $95 when they're originally $300) I'm in the stages of actually finalizing my guest list and me and my mom have different ideas of how they should be addressed.


I always assumed when inviting an unmarried couple the males name goes first so the addresses show as "Mr. X and Ms. Y) but my mom said I should address them with my actual guest first. I have an aunt and uncle who are not married (they probably are considered married based on common law as they have been together my entire life) but my mom told me to put my Aunts name first (since she's my blood relative) and then my uncles name, she advise I do the same with my cousin and her fiance (they are getting married two months before I am) she advise I put my cousins name first.

Does anyone know the actual proper etiquette?

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Latest activity by Q, on July 12, 2021 at 1:43 AM
  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    I'm not sure if there is proper etiquette, but for unmarried couples, I did it the way your mom suggested, with my actual guest's name first, then their partner's name.

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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    I’m not sure what proper etiquette is but on all our envelopes we did Mr. and Mrs. Husbands First Name, Last Name.



    If the couple doesn’t have the same last name or aren’t married, we did Mr. or Mrs. Family Member First and Last Name and Mr. or Mrs. Spouse First Name and Last Name. And the same if it wasn’t a family member, our “guest” first, like your mom said. And both names spelled out.
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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
    Jessi ·
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    I don't know what's technically the proper way, but we are doing alphabetically by last name. So if we have Ms. Peters and Mr. Jones we would put "Mr. X Jones and Ms. Y Peters" no matter who we have a closer relationship to.

    For married couples we also did "Mr. and Mrs. <Husband's First Name> <Last Name>".

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    Expert September 2021
    Marianne ·
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    Not sure about proper etiquette, but for all couples with different last names (whether married or not), we put the person we knew better first.

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  • Amanda
    Devoted May 2022
    Amanda ·
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    I definitely didn't follow proper etiquette oops. I just listed the woman's name first and then the man (if that applied), without the Mr., Miss, or Mrs. titles.

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  • Ariel
    Devoted October 2021
    Ariel ·
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    We didn’t use Mr or Mrs. Instead we listed the person we knew best and then their partner. See example below


    Different last name: Jane Smith and John Doe Same last name: Jane and John Smith
    Our wedding is formal but we just didn’t like the proper way of doing it, so we did it how we wanted to.

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  • Q
    Dedicated August 2020
    Q ·
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    Your mom is correct on this one.
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