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Emma
Just Said Yes June 2021

Adding on to guest list for postponed wedding - etiquette on this?

Emma, on July 30, 2020 at 5:13 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

The title of this thread probably sounds odd, given that many of us are downsizing, not adding, to our weddings. Here's the situation:


Like many, we've postponed our wedding celebration until 2021 (fingers crossed). (Still getting married in front of our immediate families this fall.) We are planning on sending out "Change the Date" cards in the next few weeks to our guests now that we have a new date set.


Well, my fiance and I were discussing, and we both have a couple people we'd now like to ADD to our guest list who weren't originally on there. Not that they weren't included originally for any specific reason, just that they're people we've since grown closer too since we sent out our original Save the Dates over the winter.


It wouldn't be many people, maybe like 3 couples or so. So the question is, do we send these new additions a "Change the Date" card, even though they didn't receive an original Save the Date? Or do we just wait until when we send out actual invitations?


Of course - we know all of this could change due to covid, but this is where we're at now.

8 Comments

Latest activity by Judith, on July 31, 2020 at 2:47 PM
  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
    Molly ·
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    I would wait and until you send out actual invitations.

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    I’d wait until you send the actual invitations
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Wait and send an invitation.
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  • Lisa
    Legend July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I agree with all previous comments - maybe let them know the date verbally ahead of time, but don't send a Change The Date card. I would wait until you send invitations.
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  • Emma
    Just Said Yes June 2021
    Emma ·
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    Thank you, all! Makes sense to me.

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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    B lists are very rude. But if none of the other invites have gone out yet (at the 6-8 week mark) then you can add people. Everyone who received a save the date must get an invite but they are a new thing and people have been sending out invites at the 6 week mark for ages with no prior notice and 100% attendance.
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  • Margarita
    Devoted March 2021
    Margarita ·
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    *negativity , the dress is beautiful & your going to look beautiful on your wedding day !
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  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    Give me hem an invitation when you send others. Sending no saves, or giving advance notice to only a few people, is fine, and adding all the rest when invitations go. Once those go out, adding people to replace those not attending, is B listing, considered rude.
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