Adding last minute guests and no matching place cards

Yep that's rude. It will be obvious to them that they are second choice. Also leaving out their partners (if they have) is also rude.

I would talk with the caterer about upgrading other portions of the menu to make up for the extra costs. Maybe add dessert or late night snack?

If your numbers are down so much, why couldn't they have plus ones?

I honestly don't think that anyone will even notice that the place cards are a different color. I would rather have people there to eat the food and celebrate with than not. If his buddies can come (and I think 3.5 weeks out is enough notice), I would invite them.

I think B listing is horrible. If his friends are genuinely okay with B listing [don't know how you could possibly confirm this] then I guess invite them, but do not tell them they can't bring a date. That's also horrible. Also, 3 guests are not going to make a big enough difference in your leftover food to matter. Wasted food due to missing guests is a casualty of all weddings!

I think you are overreacting about the place cards. I am super into the aesthetics of my wedding, so I get it, but literally nobody will notice, including you lol

Like Bailey mentioned, if these friends truly don't care that they're last minute invites, it wouldn't be a terrible idea to invite them (even with dates/ +1's) to fill seats and help to keep some food from going to waste. You could even have the non-matching cards held away until your photographer gets a picture of all of the ones that do match.

We had a similar event about 2 weeks before our wedding and I just explained that the deadline had already passed, we'd already informed our venue (who were doing the catering) about numbers and allergies etc and it wouldn't be appropriate to add more on. I also put across that I was already very stressed and the idea of adding people on (who didn't even make the cut in round 1!!) was just making me more stressed for no real reason.

He understood and in the end we compromised on the extra person being invited to the evening reception as these invites had been sent in a second wave (not due to B listing but just due to how we planned our wedding in less than 4 months lol, we had to get the invites out fast). The guy didn't even RSVP or turn up at all so I guess we were right not to invite him for the day... lol

Hey Kelly,

I can understand where your frustration is coming from. I love a good aesthetic! I think that since you only have 55 current guests attending while paying for 75 guests, adding a few more people is actually beneficial for you and your fiance, $ wise.

I totally get that the place cards won't look perfect. Are you not able to get some more? If not, don't stress the small stuff. It won't matter, you won't notice it, and if you do, you'll get over it.

Don't forget, this is about you and your love getting married.

Best wishes,

Steph